Do we ever really lose feelings for our ex's completely?

[seemenow]

Really, whether we were the dumper or the dumpee.-Do the intimate feelings ever really go away completely? Whether we have been screwed over, lied to, cheated on, used, etc.? Or if we were the dumper and fell out of love with the person, met someone else, etc?

 

If we have moved on and then see them again, do feelings still remain?

 

And what about by some miracle we were able to remain friends, real friends with our ex's? and still remain friends even when they or we have a relationship with someone else? Do the feelings turn completely platonic? Or are they there forever once we have intimately loved another person?

 

What do you think?

Please tell me your thoughts, opinions, or actual experiences with this.

[movingon12]

I don't love my ex any more. In fact I honestly no longer know what I ever saw in him. And when he contacts me I just find him incredibly annoying and pathetic.

 

So in answer to your question: yes you eventually stop loving your ex. if you let yourself.

[threebyfate]

Yes, you can and do lose all intimate feelings. I can look at my exes and have platonic feelings of friendship or mild distaste.

 

So there is hope, if you can let go and move on. It will take time.

[Stillalive1]

It depends,there is a girl i can't forget,no matter what,it never happened before to me,ive even had other relationships but heart is still connected to her.

I datest hottest girl,girl that were better in bed than her,but i couldn't feel the same for anybody. The mental connection i had with her i think is sth that happens once in a lifetime.

[youngnlove89]

Really, whether we were the dumper or the dumpee.-Do the intimate feelings ever really go away completely? Whether we have been screwed over, lied to, cheated on, used, etc.? Or if we were the dumper and fell out of love with the person, met someone else, etc?

 

If we have moved on and then see them again, do feelings still remain?

 

And what about by some miracle we were able to remain friends, real friends with our ex's? and still remain friends even when they or we have a relationship with someone else? Do the feelings turn completely platonic? Or are they there forever once we have intimately loved another person?

 

What do you think?

Please tell me your thoughts, opinions, or actual experiences with this.

 

 

Hmmm, I've dated more than a few guys and all of them I am on good terms with. Doesn't mean I talk to the anymore, but we would be civil if we saw eachother. Out of the men (or boys at the time) I dated, only 4 I said I love you too and only 2 that I really meant it. Once you get over someone, you can tell if you really did love them or whether it was lust. My first true love, I still have a place in my heart for. We don't talk, he is now married with a kid on the way, but he will always been in the back of my mind. If he and I met up again, I don't know how I would feel, but I am perfectly content with moving on without him. I can love again, live happily and not have him in my life. I think what we cling onto is memories and good times. That person I loved has changed, I don't know who he is anymore and I never will. I still love that person I knew, but I bet if I saw him today those feelings wouldn't be there anymore.

 

And the other guy I still love, is my current ex. I know he will always have a place in my heart, I can feel it. Doesn't mean we are meant to be though. People change. Things change. Life goes on. But the memories will always hold on, even if that person let's go.

 

The other 2 guys that I claimed to love at the time, I realized it wasn't love. I couldn't see that until I met love. Lust is very similar and I can't even believe I dated those guys. I actually met up with an ex that I used to "love" and EW, I was disgusted by him. I had NO feelings. He even wanted me back and I said no. Once I let go of him, there was nothing left.

[Redbirdinabrightsky]

Yes and no.

 

I've dated many women, and said I love you to just 3. Of the 3 that I loved, one will always be in my heart. The other 2 repulse me, but with this girl that I still love, she could call me up in 40 years and ask for me back, and I would be there, or at least I think that now.

 

There is no way that I can explain the attachment to the "one" but with the other 2 I realized that though I loved them too, it was a conditional love, based on some idea of relationship performance. I hope to meet somebody and grow old together, but I cannot say whether this unmet woman will ever take precedence over miss 40 year call. If she does, then she will be truly out of this world.

 

I have relationships with all the women I've dated but one, and only one is a sexual one, and this is because it is that "one" woman. Moving on is tough to do, and maybe I am not so hopelessly romantic as I feel, but I am not sure there is a one right formulaic answer for this question, and if there is, I don't know it.