ltensail Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I'm close to winning a girl's heart. But whenever we went out with others, she will be very cold to me and very close to another guy who she has known for 3 years. They are very close. Whenever I arranged an outing, she will ask me if she can call him to come along. When we are chatting online, she will mention him. Then, this make me very doubtful if she really likes me. Otherwise, why is she so cold to me? Everytime i talk to her, she will reply with one-word answer but she is always the one to take initiative to talk to that other guy. If she has ANYTHING in mind, or need any help, she will approach him. So I don't know if she really likes me or maybe she is afraid that i'll be heartbroken to get rejected. I've already assumed the worst, that is, she lied to me. If that's true, can anyone tell me how can i not get heartbroken very seriously? But if she is not lying, can anyone tell me why the hell is she so cold to me? What can i do? Whenever I saw them very close and she got flirted by him during outings, I'll get so angry but i don't have the right to stop them. Then I'll just isolate myself from them. Sure enough, they will sense something is wrong. but i don't have to tell them. I feel that my jealousness is very silly and foolish and if i told the girl, she will feel being forced to be warm to me. I don't know. I'm confused. Please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 Hello, It does not sound like you are winning this girl's heart at all. You judge a person by their actions and not by their words and her actions speaks volumes. I would suggest that you back off and move on. The fact that she wishes to have this other guy come with the both of you when you go out on dates is simply ridiculous. You were a full and total person before you met her and you will be a full and total person afterwards. If the roles were reversed, do you honestly think any girl would accept such disrespect from you if you insisted that you bring another girl with you when you go on dates with someone else? I think if you back off and move on you will be much better off. You really would have to be a doormat to allow her to bring her male friend with you on your dates. She is disrespecting you and making you look quite silly and foolish. It is simple ridiculous and I think you know this too. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
charmingangel Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 if she really liked you she wouldnt be like that and i know how you feel i am currently in a similar situation just keep in mind this little quote:if love is what you seek just remeber if you lose it its gone if it comesback again its yours to keep you can continue to give her the benifit of the doubt or you can let her make up her mind while you are enjoying life for all that it is worth and date someone else even if its a friendship date who knows it could be your next love heck it could even be true love keep smilin it will be ok Link to post Share on other sites
pitprincess Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I agree.. If she really likes you like your thinking she does she wouldn't act like this. She should want to spend her time with you (Without) anyone else. I think you should rethink about this girl. JMO Link to post Share on other sites
Author ltensail Posted August 9, 2004 Author Share Posted August 9, 2004 ok, i'm felt better now. Thanks alot. But, how can i forget her. liking someone means that she has all the things you like. it'll be hard to give her up and end up dwelling over her goodness. i know that i'm bound to be sad after rejection but how can i stop myself from addicted to her? And one question. how can i face the fact that she is being flirt, tolerate it and still be the normal me? some of the time, i can actually hate the flirt. Please help me. Link to post Share on other sites
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