confusedmind Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 hey just wondering what you guys think about a 27year old guy dating a 19year old? (btw i'm the 19year old). We went out for just under a year and he wants to get back together.. but i can't help but think that there is too much of an age difference to make it work? I don't want to get back in the relationship if it is just going to end in heart break. Ie - him wanting to get married, and settle down.. when i'm not ready for that... what do you guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I dont' think that you have an age difference problem you have a maturity difference problem. By the way I dont mean to offend you with that. Some people are fine with 8 years. My parents were eight years apart and frankly I always found my mom to be more serious than my dad. So its about marriage and settling down. He's ready and your not. That is the problem not marriage. Discuss this with him. See if he is ready to wait and how long? And if he is not then you know your answer to him.... Don't date him again. Regards Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I'd say that, at this point in your life, this age difference would not work out very well. Perhaps you two could be cuddly and cute, and very physically involved, but otherwise I don't think much could work out in the long run. Years down the line, perhaps this would work. The both of you are at different places in your lives. You said it yourself — he wants to marry and you are not ready for that at all. Right there is one main problem. I can only imagine the other major differences between your two age groups. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim Posted August 9, 2004 Share Posted August 9, 2004 I spent two and a half years dating a woman nine years my juniour (we met when I was 29 and she was 20). The relationship had it's share of good times and also it's share of issues... I can't say that the age difference was the main determining factor in us parting ways, but it definetly created tension between us due to differences in life experience, outlooks, what we want, etc... So yes, there are certain problems that can arise between two people who are years apart in age. But then again, there's a lot of good as well and I'm not sure I would discourage anyone from becoming involved b/c of an age difference. But I would encourage them to anticipate certain problems arising because of it. Link to post Share on other sites
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