Oberfeldwebel Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Read all you want on Cognitive Thinking and nowhere does lying come up as a useful exercise. You talk about the elephant in the room, but the elephant in the room is the affair, which you still fail to address. How is that working out for you? Not so good I see. I would not be surprised if your wife doesn't suspect something happened between you two and has been suppressing it ever since. No relationship can survive if it is veiled in a lie. This is your relationship so you can do as you wish, but it just seems counter productive to me. Link to post Share on other sites
CarboniteCammy Posted December 28, 2012 Share Posted December 28, 2012 Wow, I'm surprised that a counselor would advise someone to lie like that while also working on cognitive therapy. How does that work, OP? It seems to me, and maybe I'm wrong here, but that you found a counselor who would give you the advice you wanted to hear, rather then what you actually needed to hear. I can't imagine that a relationship based on a lie (the lie that you are faithful) could ever realize it's true potential. Are you one of those melodramatic people who like to suffer in silence? Do you see your marriage as some kind of penance for your misdeeds? Regardless, I think the mother of your children deserves enough respect for you to tell her to her face that you violated the terms of your marraige and that you also fell in love with another person. In reality, you cheated on her both mentally and physically, which makes this twice as bad. I hope you figure this out for yourself and I hope you do the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
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