yessy21 Posted December 3, 2012 Share Posted December 3, 2012 DO NOT BANG SOMEONE ELSE. I didnt think it would have to come to this. (cracks knuckles) 1.) If you want something changed. only YOU can make that change. 2.) you need to be an ADULT, and communicate with the other human being u share a home with. Hence the word human being. If you start sticking your hands in the cookie jar you will make a big sloppy mess out of a simple problem. most probrably she feels very neglected. this will close her off to you. You closed yourself off because you were trying to avoid the situation. If i were you.... id sit down with her over a nice quiet dinner and say this "Im not happy with our relationship... my guess is that you arent that satisfied either. Do you want to fix the problem or do you want to leave it at that until the children are older?" If this doesnt work.... (which if you do it the way i told u... it should)... then take a GOOOD look at your right/left hand and that bottle of lotion... causeee they will be ur main girls for a while. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
frozensprouts Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 try sitting down with your wife after the kids are in bed,or, better yet, hire a sitter and go out for a night and have a really honest conversation about how you both feel. You have a lot of things to get off your chest, and so does she...but that's probably normal for any long term relationship... I'm sorry to say that there really is no quick fix to this, but there are little things that you can try, if you are both willing. "date night" is a cliche, but it really is nice to be out together as as husband and wife, not just as mom and dad. It doesn't have to be anywhere expensive or even at night...try and find some ways to bring fun back into the time you spend together...is there some kind of activity you have both always wanted to try but never did? Having fun "little adventures" like that can be a great bonding experience... but, like i said, it be like flicking a switch and everything will be great again...you'll both have to do a lot of talking, and you may both end up hearing some things about each other that you don't like...I know it's hard, but if you can get pat the initial anger at hearing something negative, and really listen to the reason and the feeling behind it, you may well end up making some good progress...we all do things that hurt our spouse without meaning to, and don't even realize it. Do you think that may be the case for your situation? somewhere along the line, you "lost" each other...but you can find your way back again, with some time, effort and understanding... good luck Link to post Share on other sites
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