Vallez Posted November 29, 2012 Share Posted November 29, 2012 (edited) Hi everyone! I've met my men in a virtual world I never planned that I would ever want to meet him in person. It all started normally, no any naughty thoughts, then we took it to mostly sexual level. Never in my life someone turned me on so much! One day he asked me to come and see him because he was coming for work near my country. At first I wasnt sure about it, it was scary! I mean I "knew" him for a month. He is just that type of guy that cuts off on moments and do all the things in last minute. I think there is trust issues from my side of a view. I wasnt sure If i'd be going or not untill last minute because he was too busy there with his meetings and I'm kind of a person that needs a comfirmation on time to prepare myself. Anyway long story. I went there and we have met. I've thought this was all going to be just casual one night stand When I came there my body was crazy, so I initied sex. After that he took me to dinner, it was romantic. When we got back he completely changed. I was confused. He was just romantic, cuddling me all the time, telling me how I'm cute, how he likes me and so on and so on. I've got confused it wasn't the way I planned how thing would go. A part from that I showed him some affection back, maybe not too much. When I said i like him back too much. He was doubtfull. At some point he started the coversation like with how many guys I've slept, wtf? He said I bet many. I was again shocked and confused. I went numb I told him not many and thats its not true. Next day I needed to go home, he took me to the airport. I was still confused When we said goodbye he told me that he will come and visit me in 2 months. I was happy about it. I've felt bad in the end because he spent a lots of money on me Since then it passed almost two weeks. I'm the one who initiates conversations on a regural basis, he always says he is busy (I know his job is responsible and that he also has his own company, so its 2 jobs), so I'm brief always and cold and I go away, because I see he is ignoring me and I want to give him his space and not to stress him out additonaly. If whats he is saying is true, that he is busy all the time. I did sent him a text when I came back home on his phone that I miss him and some things in a cool funny way. So, he knows it, all he replied was that he read it. I said ok, soon after I needed to go, my boss was calling me. Since monday I've stopped to communicate him to clear my head because I'm so sad lately and in order to ignore him and give him some personal space. All I think is about him, I can't eat, I can't sleep, I've never felt like this in my life, I don't know what is going on with me :confused: I've notice he is online in this game mostly like on MSN messanger too. He does replies to me immediately if I say something. I told him to call me, I called a week ago, he didn't answer me. So I've sent him a text message:" I get it, you don't want to talk to me at all, I won't push you. So long!" Next second he said I'm at work, honey,ii love you. we will talk tomorrow. You think he called, no he hasn't. Last time, this monday I told him I'm so stressed out with my job and that I'm going offline for couple of days because everyone of my friends is bugging me and that i need peace. THIS POST IS LONG, SORRY, I GOT INSPIRATION. Anyway I decided to cut it all off for a week or two untill I finish my projects. Am I overreacting or he is just not that into me and he got turned off? On moments I think he is a big liar. If he can be on this game chat and MSN and not initiating communication first. Its really rude, I can't think of anything else. Maybe I'm possesive and freaking out for no reason. I was thinking when this time passes by, my ignoration time that. I should give him a call, IM or something even if he doesn't talk to me at all. Not for himself, but for myself because I like to play fair and finish things or clear them up. I wanted to tell him, depending on a situation and how our chat or talk would go. I want to tell him something like this: "That for the first time in my life I fell for someone so much and that I'm lost and that he is confusing me with his behaviour sometimes and that I don't want to molest him anyway or something or push things, that I'd just like to know the truth about his feelings for me." Yes, yes I know its probably humiliating and desperate, but its his fault, he started that things first, not me! He was the one that acted like he "wanted" something more romantic then just causal sex. And he said the same thing to me while ago before our date. Like why am I so rude to him saying i like him then i switch off. I'm really mature when it comes to guys, if it was someone else, I'd say goodbye long time ago, but for this guy, I just seem I can't let him go. Thats all I wanted to say. I can't belive I've just posted this to the forum. I'm just sad Edited November 30, 2012 by Vallez Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Don't contact him anymore and see what happens. Give him the time to contact you first. If it's after 3 days, then it's still fine. If it's after 2 weeks, I wouldn't call it love nor that he's fallen in love. If it's a month or longer, you're a nice time filler, especially if he plans to come near where you live... Relax and try to think of something else, even though it seems too difficult. And then let us know what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Share Posted November 30, 2012 Yes I will do that, as I said its not the first time he did something like this. Just acting wierd, then asking me why I am the one who is quite and ignore him. Strange, thought the older men gets, wiser he is! I'll give him a week maximum, but I will talk to him even if he doesn't talks to me first. I know its pathetic, but. I need to do it for myself to move on in peace! Btw, yes I know its not love, love! I just never fell for someone like this so much, ever, so its confusing and hard Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted November 30, 2012 Share Posted November 30, 2012 Life can be funny... Anyway, I would want to make things clear too, so I understand your point. But if you do it after a week or a month or two months won't change a thing. It's just that you won't wait because you're impatient, because... you're in love. That's all. Keep it in check, so that you can see how he feels about you. For real. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Vallez Posted November 30, 2012 Author Share Posted November 30, 2012 I'm keeping it. No worries. I'm calming down, what I've ment by talking. I was thinking about letting him know how I feel and what's bothers me. Because I think it's his fault in the first place, he started this this romance, not me. That's why I think I have the right to be100% sure to move on knowing the truth! I'll let you know what happened:p Link to post Share on other sites
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