How did I get myself into this!!

[Tenacity]

The reason why I don't want to "shut him down" is less out of desire to play games, and more about minimising impact. I'm not mad on the idea of telling him to f*ck off then rolling up to the office on Monday trying to pretend that nothing happened. If I was about to quit my job, then that would be a different story, but as I said in another post, I still want to work there for a few more months. You might think that is game playing but, from my perspective, it isn't. Ideally I'd like to remain on friendly-ish terms.

 

I spent the day with him on Friday sorting out the replacements of my stolen belongings. It turns out, some guy found my handbag in a park near my house and noticed my business card in it- so at least I got that back. MM came with me to pick it up off the guy (not that he had to, probably trying to be a knight in shining armour). But while we were in the office, he brought up the Xmas party next weekend. He isn't getting a hotel room anymore! The wife is still not coming. He was asking me how I was getting there, how I was getting home, was I going anywhere afterwards, did I plan on driving. I basically just said I was driving and going with another colleague.

 

THEN, he phoned me yesterday (usually he never phones on a weekend) with the news that he bought himself a new electric guitar (the exact same one I've got, btw) which I thought was odd. Who decides on the spur of the moment to go out and buy a Fender Stratocaster? When he already has 7 guitars! Then he posted pics of the guitar on Facebook, and on one of them wrote "*My name*- I hope you approve!".

 

Anyway, so that is where I'm at with the whole saga. I will admit that after feeling so miserable at the beginning of the week because I wasn't speaking to him- now that I have I feel loads better. This is bad. I don't want to feel this way (well, I do want to feel better obviously, but not because I've spoken to MM!!)

 

You know, I stuck up for you because I took you for a bright person, as did others. But you have had dozens ... dozens!!! of responses here from people who have been where you are and have a whole lot more experience than you, and you just discount it all and keep doing what you are doing. I'm not feeling sorry for you anymore. What is it you want to hear? Do you want justification for your behavior? Because you won't get it here.

 

The reason why I don't want to "shut him down" is less out of desire to play games, and more about minimising impact.

 

I completely disagree. If you really wanted to "minimize impact', then you would have heard what others said to you, but you didn't.

 

You do want to play games with this MM. You have no intention of getting out of this situation and you never did.

 

This is bad. I don't want to feel this way (well, I do want to feel better obviously, but not because I've spoken to MM!!)

 

You have had a ton of advice here. You chose to ignore it. Don't expect to keep posting here and get sympathy for making choices that completely ignore that advice.

Edited December 9, 2012 by Tenacity