truthbetold Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 Um I actually have a new boyfriend already and we do live together. So yeah I was still really stuck in this fantasy and wasn't doing anything to move on Thing is, he (and the whole thing) still occupies my mind a lot and that kinda confuses me. If your new bf was all that for you, MM wouldn't even be on your radar anymore. The fact that he is on your radar proves you moved too fast moving in with a new guy as a rebound. Not exactly a healthy move if you're not over someone else. That's why many relationship fail that don't allow one of the people time to heal and mourn the previous relationship. Though you didn't exactly have a "relationship" with this MM. You only know what he filtered to you via online and perhaps phone, it's not the same as f2f and time spent together day in and day out. If there really is good in your new bf you should focus on that, otherwise let him go as it's not fair to him if your heart isn't with him. All people including you should want and get more than half assed attempts at love. Link to post Share on other sites
ComingInHot Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 I think it's great you are attempting to move on! It is hard to get out of such a think tangle of lies and emotions so kudos to you. I can only tell you what my FWH's young thing did TO me. After he broke it off with her she kind of (well not kind of) went ballistic. She knew me, worked for me and I paid her through her company as a contracted techy. She outed the A because (and I quote) "you ought to know that kind of a**hole you're married to". I immediately thanked her and forgave her and said I would take it from here. She didn't like that for some reason so she contacted me again with, "you have a right to know that he said you were old, ugly and fat and I am way better in bed". Ummm okay... well I know that none of those things are true but she REALLY wanted me to believe that I was those things whether my husband said them or not. It was hurtful because I would say that 30 was old (yet)* so I said alright, I think I've got enough sol long and please don't contact me. So she kept contacting me getting uglier and uglier to a point where my husband was so mad that any embarrassment he had went out the window and he ran to our lawyer and had a formal cease and desist letter sent... I think her behavior was irrational (he never told her he loved her. she confirmed this). I was never anything but kind. She just hated me and I still don't get it. She should have been angry with herself and my husband. I get "hurt" but I don't get "hate" and especially towards me. Sorry so long but I hope it explains that YES I think it is IRRATIONAL to bare HATRED toward the W (at least in my case) and NO I don't think it is normal at all... Maybe misdirected? Link to post Share on other sites
ThatJustHappened Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 By definition, if something is irrational, it's not normal.. Link to post Share on other sites
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