confusedlady_ny Posted December 3, 2012 Share Posted December 3, 2012 I have been engaged to someone for most of this year. We were living separately for quite a while because of our work schedules. He just confessed to me that in May he had sex with someone else, not once but on two separate occasions. He feels guilty for letting me believe he is someone better than he is. He seems truly broken, and I'm glad.. but I confronted him on several occasions when I suspected that he wasn't being faithful, and he point blank lied to my face about 4 times, and made me feel like a jerk for even thinking he would do something like that. He wants me to forgive him and move forward. I don't know how.. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 3, 2012 Share Posted December 3, 2012 Tell me. If he lied to you four times, what is to stop him from lying a fifth? If he cheated twice. If he lied four times to your face...that's big signs. You can forgive him...but if I where you I wouldn't be with him. Link to post Share on other sites
jwhite Posted December 3, 2012 Share Posted December 3, 2012 Him having sex with someone else is bad. If you want him back, which I am sure you do right now, you should do a couple of things. 1) end the engagment 2) only see him on a limited basis...ie tell him the only way you want to see him is through couples counciling 1-2 time a week. Spend the rest of the time pleasing YOU and learning to love yourself again. 3) make him see a shrink I dont know if you can really get over something like this. The more time you spend away from him, hopefully, it may clear some things up in your head. Link to post Share on other sites
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