kvfox2004 Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 I have been in a relationship with a a man ten years older than me for a year and 2 months. Things were going well up until 6-7 months ago. We both work funny hours but found time in the beginning to see each other, this was mainly once or twice a week but we would spend many hour togther. We waited months to have a sexual relationship, but it seems after that things went down hill. We did have a 50/50 relationship. Meaning, I would pay for dates, and buy him things also. Lately he comes late hours of the night we have sex and he normally leaves early in the morning. I tolerated it because he had a part time job that he had to be on for 8 am. But he changed his schedule and I still got the same treatment. He has been working only part time for the last few months and still no change with time. Throughout this relationship we have only spent two consecutive nights together. The day of our anniversay he left at around noon. In the last 6-7 months we have only been on about 4-5 dates, meaning out for dinner or a movie, but he doesn't stop coming to be intimate with me. When I tell him how i feel, I'm being a nag or petty. He promised to take me out after one argument, then missed it saying he was tired. The day before my birthday he promised to take me out, then said he forgot. He took me taco bell, told me he only had $2 and a $100, which he didn't want to break, so I paid for the rest of my meal. I also have seen him starring at other women when we are out, which of course he says that its my insecurity. When I ask him to do things he doesn;t want to go, or complains to the point where I give in. He rarely invites me out any more. The last holiday we spent together was new year. He never brings his cell phone into my house when he stays over. I have to ask him to cut my grass,which he has done only once, even after seeing it was high and dropping hints. He doesn't support me at all financially. He says h is going through a depression and that things will get better. Should I beleive this. Link to post Share on other sites
aboehme Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 Im not the best to speak about relationships but honestly i think he is in a serious relationship and your mor or less his prize on the side when he has the time... you should find someone that will treat you good and not make you feel like hes being obligated to be there. since you dont live with him thats the best way to get out of this somewhat of a relationship... things wont get better at least i dont feel they eill hell always use that for an excuse to get out of something he doesnt want to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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