problem with cousin

[Illyana]

My cousin and I are like sisters. I know her heart is in the right place but the more I open up to her about my current break up, the less I want to talk to her. Her advice is the standard, what everyone says advice. I already know what she is telling me. The thing that bothers me is when my ex and I were having a problem and I tried to open up about it to her, she was like it doesn't matter you two aren't going to last anyway. She should support any decision I make.

 

With my current break up, it was just as much my fault as his and she fails to see that. She instantly attacks my ex which isn't really helping the situation since I'd still like to be friends just because he was an important part of my life. Instead of giving me the advice I need, she just is like oh he is just taking advantage of your emotions. She lives states away and is only here during holidays and the summer. She doesn't know my ex so it bothers me that she is so judgmental when she doesn't know him. I don't want to argue with her but I wish she would give me the advice I am actually looking for. I am already in a mixed up, stressful situation. I'm trying not to make it worse so the attacks just aren't helping. They don't give me anything to heal with. They just make me mad at her and him.