Javabear Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 My ex left me out of the blue after three years together because he developed feelings for someone else about 2.5 months ago. It took almost a month for us to finally break up because he was giving me so many mixed signals and saying things like "I like someone else but I don't want to break up because I know I need to be with you." Etc. Etc. I wanted to make it work because i think we belong together but I guess he just gave up. Anyway, we haven't spoken in almost a month and he still has lots of things in my apartment (TV, kitchen supplies, board games). I asked him twice the last time we spoke to come get them and he ignored me. Why won't he come get them? Is he trying to keep ties with me if he decides he wants to come back? I really want things to work out between us but he hasn't given me any indication that he still cares about me at all. I told him I could not be friends with him because when you break up with someone you lose that person, the good and the bad. If I need to move on and heal I need his stuff gone, but I miss him so much that part of me wants to keep his things just to have a reason to see him again. Why is he doing this? Can anyone make sense of it? Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 I can't make sense of it, but I would put it all in a box, wrap it up all nice and neat so it's as convenient for him to pick up as possible...and then set it out by your dumpster. I suggest the friendly non-pushy text to really make an impression: "Hey *******. Your ****'s by the dumpster. Garbage men come tomorrow morning. Don't ever contact me again." Trust me, that will teach him a lot more than anything else you could say to him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 Why do you want him back? He left you without so much as a warning for someone else. You're not second choice or a back up plan so stop acting like it. Pack it up and put it on the curb for the garbage man. You gave him plenty of opportunity to get his crap, he hasn't responded. His problem, not yours. You owe him nothing. Maybe he just doesn't care at all if he gets those things back or not. The last time I spoke to my ex he told me that I had DVDs of his. I know I don't but I offered to look anyway and give them back if I did, and he was like, "I don't care." He didn't want to see me. So. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 They typically dont care if they get their stuff back or not Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 They typically dont care if they get their stuff back or not I agree: if he hasn't made a single comment or move to come and collect, the next (and only, final) message you could text him is: "as you have ignored my suggestions to come and pick up your stuff, I have demonstrated equal indifference and dumped the lot at the local charity shop. They were most grateful." And promptly delete all manner means and ways of ever being in touch with him, ever again. And vice-versa. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
bitterruin Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 When my ex asked me to pick up my stuff I felt like he was just looking for excuses to see me. I didn't really care about what was left there and I told him to throw that *** out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sav Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 keep the tv 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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