TreatedBad Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 This is all of it. I was with the same man and married for 17 years. I am 35 with two children. We just got divorced because he cheated an moved in with his girlfriend. I met a man a year younger than me that told me he was divorced also with two children. We exchanged numbers and started talking all the time. Seeing each other a lot too. It quickly turned physical and he would tell me the sweetest things, how much he liked me, calling my kids his step-kids, future plans. Then he started getting a little distant. Went out of town for a little while. And just like that after all of that, I get a call from a girl saying she doesn't know what I think I am but she is his girlfriend! I had no clue and was shocked! I couldn't even speak. I texted him a few days later saying that it was so messed up to put me in that position considering my past. He answered he would text me next week, then she calls me threatening me with a stupid mistake I made, sent an intimate picture to him. I don't want to be with the man anymore....just want answers. What did I do to deserve this?! I am so sad and broken hearted. Advice? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 You did nothing wrong and you don't deserve this, at all. That guy you met, probably knew you were vunerable and he took advantage of you, promised you so much and knew too he couldn't follow through. He's an ass.hole and as hurt as you are, don't waste too much time crying over him. There are no excuses for him, for his behaviour. He's selfish and hurt two women. The girlfriend obviously had no idea about you, I'm sure she's in shock and hurting as well. Don't see him again, any conversations can take place over the phone or email, if you choose to question him and how he's treated you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
eleanorrigby Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 This is all of it. I was with the same man and married for 17 years. I am 35 with two children. We just got divorced because he cheated an moved in with his girlfriend. I met a man a year younger than me that told me he was divorced also with two children. We exchanged numbers and started talking all the time. Seeing each other a lot too. It quickly turned physical and he would tell me the sweetest things, how much he liked me, calling my kids his step-kids, future plans. Then he started getting a little distant. Went out of town for a little while. And just like that after all of that, I get a call from a girl saying she doesn't know what I think I am but she is his girlfriend! I had no clue and was shocked! I couldn't even speak. I texted him a few days later saying that it was so messed up to put me in that position considering my past. He answered he would text me next week, then she calls me threatening me with a stupid mistake I made, sent an intimate picture to him. I don't want to be with the man anymore....just want answers. What did I do to deserve this?! I am so sad and broken hearted. Advice? Get as many answers as you feel you need, but do your best to not get caught up in this affair again. Don't forget that you don't want to be with him anymore. Keep that in the front of your head when you deal with him. He may start trying to spin things and weave tales soon that you may want to believe. Don't fall for it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TreatedBad Posted December 4, 2012 Author Share Posted December 4, 2012 Thanks. If I contact him again she is threatening to post my picture. I don't really care as I can deny its me. She has called me 12 times at least in two days, blocking her number. I feel bad about the situation and would never have pursued him knowing he had someone. I just want to know how someone could fake all that knowing it would destroy me. It's like this pain plus the pain from my ex. I'm lonely and depressed. I don't know what to do or if I will get over the pain. How can you ever trust people?! Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 Gee, she sounds like a joy to be around. I mean, I can understand her being upset, but she's certainly leveling her anger at the wrong person. Just be more careful in the future. Know everything there is to know about a guy before becoming intimate in any way. Google him, check references, whatever you need to do. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 This is one evil man. He played you and he is utter scum who needs his ass kicked. Dear you did nothing wrong! You are far better than this absolute liar of a loser! As to why you deserve it? You don't! He is just scum and they don't care who they hurt. He needs his ass beat hard 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author TreatedBad Posted December 4, 2012 Author Share Posted December 4, 2012 In addition to all of that, I feel horrible that I wound up on the other side of the cheating game. I probably should have answered her calls and maybe given her some info, but I don't want to get involved in all this. I thought when I divorced my cheating ex-husband that would be the end of that situation and never thought I would have to experience anything that heart wrenching again. This hurts my insides. I am starting to feel better, but I keep thinking about the wonderful things he said and to think he had a girlfriend all that time.....it makes me never want to let anyone close to me. I almost feel like I should give up and be alone. :-( 1 Link to post Share on other sites
skywriter Posted December 4, 2012 Share Posted December 4, 2012 In addition to all of that, I feel horrible that I wound up on the other side of the cheating game. I probably should have answered her calls and maybe given her some info, but I don't want to get involved in all this. I thought when I divorced my cheating ex-husband that would be the end of that situation and never thought I would have to experience anything that heart wrenching again. This hurts my insides. I am starting to feel better, but I keep thinking about the wonderful things he said and to think he had a girlfriend all that time.....it makes me never want to let anyone close to me. I almost feel like I should give up and be alone. :-( I can understand your not trusting your own judgement after this, but, there are some very nice men out there. There's a saying, look deep before you leap. I'm thinking that way these days. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTKO Posted December 5, 2012 Share Posted December 5, 2012 Just be careful. You know what they say, birds of a feather flock together. This woman who's harassing you sounds very unstable, and there's a good chance that this guy fed her bunch of lies to make you look like the bad one. It's sounds like they're both unstable, self centered, manipulative, so let them be together and enjoy each other. You need to back off and cease and desist all forms of communication with these characters. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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