flsgirl Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 So I'm really just writing to vent: So a little over a year ago I got my heart broken by the love of my life. We dated for three years and were about to move in together. He left me and moved back home (across the country). I was absolutely devastated. Now, I'm pretty much over it (even though he's the one calling me now). About six months after my breakup I met another guy through my boss. She kept telling me how wonderful he was. I was hesitant, but I decided "what the hell." He was gorgeous, had a good job and was a lot of fun. We went out a few times. He was very charming. I ended up sleeping with him. Boy, that was dumb. We decided we weren't going to define anything let whatever happen between us happen. I totally thought I could do the whole "causal dating (sex)" thing. Nope, I got attached. Then I realized that he LOVES women. All of kinds of them. Of course, that didn't stop me from sleeping with him. And of course, I haven't heard from him in a little over a month without any explanation. I'm pretty sure he's found a new conquest. I have too much pride to call him. I was never clingy with him (that's really annoying to me). Yet he only called once every couple weeks. I know that I should be thrilled that he stopped calling me because he was bad news. I'm pissed at myself because a part of me still wants him to call. I think it's this whole rejection thing and taking another blow to my ego. I've never delt with anyone ditching me after they slept with me. My friends tell me to move on and start dating again, but I can't stop thinking about it! It's so frusterating because he's not worth one ounce of emotions. But you really can't control how you feel... Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 Chalk it up to experience and personal maturity. Make yourself let go and move on. You CAN control your feelings to a certain extent by focusing your energy and thoughts on other things. Link to post Share on other sites
Touch of Innocence Posted August 10, 2004 Share Posted August 10, 2004 For a woman it seems that it's always harder to have sex with no emotions involved. Why? I don't know! What I can tell you is that I agree with HokeyReligions, chalk it up to experience. Let this be something positive, learn from it so that you will not trip again with the same rock!!!!!!!!!! This should only help you be more mature and be more defined in what you want and what you don't want for yourself. It's real sad that us women have to go through this a lot!!!!!! I know that men go through it as well, but not as much. Sometimes I wish I could be more care-free and let all these emotional problems just slide off of me like oil! However, sometimes we are at fault because we know that we run risks when we give ourself to a man, even more if we know that he "LOVES WOMEN"!!!! We cannot change a person because in the end we will only change ourselves. Link to post Share on other sites
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