How to not be so sad?

[caramelcream313]

I've been in a long-distance relationship now for 3 months, we had been together for 2 years already, then in September I began uni halfway up the country. Due to my boyfriend taking a gap year, he is still at home, where it takes 8-10 hours by coach, or 5hours by train, but due to costs and lack of much money, we have only used the train once. We've seen eachother 3 times, and spent an entire weekend together each time, and they have been so wonderful, however from the late evening of the night before he goes, I begin to get incredibly anxious/sad, to the point that I feel ill & on edge, & it just builds up more and more until he goes, then I feel so so alone. I know it will feel better the next day, but it's just suddenly I am alone after having spent near enough every single second together over the past couple of days, it's like I don't know what to do with myself, I just feel so empty and way beyond sad, and it's worse that I have no-one like my mum, nan, or sister here to be around who would make it feel better. I get on fine with my flatmates, but they're not the same as family.

 

It's only been 3 months, & he's planning on going to uni in Scotland next year, which is roughly the same distance from here as it is home, so it looks like it's going to be this way for quite a while.

Is there anything other than time that will make it feel better after he goes? Will I ever get used to it enough to not be so upset?

 

Thanks for taking your time to read this, and to all who answer.

[justwhoiam]

If you already know when that is going to happen (that you get sad, etc.), plan something special for that night, so that you won't have any time to think about the negatives of the situation. And anyway, know that you're lucky. There are couples separated by oceans who cannot meet each other in years.