Tony T Posted November 12, 2000 Share Posted November 12, 2000 YOU ASK: "am i wrong to feel so bent out of shape about this? Your never wrong to feel the way you do. But your feelings are not justified in any way. But they are your feelings and you just have to respect them. However, your boyfriend has to make his own decisions about who he praises during his work period. That is his business entirely. You can feel anyway you like, but you are wrong to judge your boyfriend's conduct at work. NEXT QUESTION: it really did hurt. any advice? If I were your boyfriend, I would be truly pissed at YOU. He entrusted you with his codes so you could retrieve his voice mail. He did not ask you to make judgements or form opinions about his messages. When somebody gives you permission to invade their privacy, do not make judgements about what you see unless something just shouts out at you. Your boyfriend would be truly insane to allow you to retrieve his messages if he was expecting calls from ladies he might be interested in or if he was up to other things. So the only thing that bothers you is that this lady is attractive. If he got called by a fat or ugly lady, it would be OK. You might suggest to your boyfriend that he only work and do business with fat and ugly ladies. That one will get to the Supreme Court for sure. Hey, it was you ladies who asked for this equality in the workplace thing. You just have to get used to it, babes. Your men will be interacting with females all the days of their work lives, thanks to the great progress you have made. And the workplace doesn't discriminate between luscious gals and ugly ones. It is entirely appropriate for your boyfriend to refer to a lady as queen of the VA loans. Obviously, she has performed her job well...and most likely your boyfriend has profited from that. There are jokes that fly back and forth in offices every minute of every hour all over the world. For him to totally ignore the women in his work circle, and especially the top performers who just happen to be good looking, would not be profitable or wise. If you can't handle this, you should date an man who works all alone, like a speed car racer. Even astronauts go up with babes, cops now work with female officers, doctors have nurses, airline pilots goose the stewardesses (why do you think planes crash?) hey...you better get yourself together on this one. LAST QUESTION: am i completely wrong? Nah, maybe only 98.9 percent wrong...in my opinion. I think you owe your guy a super big apology and a really nice dinner. This jealousy thing is not something that will endear you to most men, especially the ones that are being truly faithful. For many, it drives them to cheat because the figure if they're going to be suspected of it, they may as well do it. Remind me to never ask you to get my phone messages. I say nice things to pretty girls all the time. I am even writing a post to one right now!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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