shyguy1980 Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 i broke up with my ex gf 3 months now but we have been texting eachother since 6 days ago when we had a txt row i told her she was selfish because she has totally wiped me out of her life so quickly and i just felt used after everything ive done for her she never had a job the 4 years we was together and she lived with me the last 2 years and me and my mum have been feeding her and paying for her. we havent spoke for 6 days now she hasnt texted or anything i keep thinking i should say sorry for saying shes selfish but i keep thinking after all ive done for her and she just went home and ended it with me by text she just kept saying making urself happy = selfish ok? should i just move on and leave it now she kept texting the night we rowed because she thought i was gonna comit suicide over her then havent heard from her since and she been on facebook chatting with freinds i could be dead wot should i do just leave it Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Yes. (10 char's). Link to post Share on other sites
sydneylovesyou123 Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Yes. She may not be a selfish person, you may TOLERATE her being that way. Thereofore, why does she have to act any other way when you've put up with her for so long? Most girls get into a routine of things, so that's probably why she continues to act that way. It doesn't sound like it is worth more effort on your part. If she gives you the effort in the future, then maybe you will be together. Forget her happiness, and focus on yourself. You will find the perfect person for you; there's one for everyone! It sounds like you need to do what makes you happy. The most important person in your life is you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shyguy1980 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 i was thinking i should leave it she hasnt contacted me so she cant be bothered or thinking about me. its strange how u can spend 4 years with someone and be forgotten so quickly Link to post Share on other sites
sydneylovesyou123 Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Don't think so negatively! Everything happens for a reason. 4 years is a long time to spend with someone, but you have the rest of your life to spend with someone else. Look at the relationship as a learning experience, you now know what you don't want in a girlfriend/wife. It seems as though you were always so caring and thoughtful. That's an awesome characteristic to have, and someone will appreciate it sometime! As of now, go out and do something you love. Time heals all wounds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shyguy1980 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 ur right thank you for ur words Link to post Share on other sites
sydneylovesyou123 Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 You are welcome! Anytime you are down, watch this video. It always helps bring me back up. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) i broke up with my ex gf 3 months i told her she was selfish because she has totally wiped me out of her life so quickly and i just felt used after everything ive done for her You broke up with her. Don't blame her for moving on. she never had a job the 4 years we was together and she lived with me the last 2 years and me and my mum have been feeding her and paying for her. This is the meanest thing you could say. I'm even surprised she still talks to you. If you had a chance to get her back in your life, you blew it. Please focus on what you said and ask yourself if that's something you'd say to the girl you love and you'd want as your wife. Remember this: money is not everything. If you invested money, maybe she invested love, which is the most precious thing you can get from a woman. You will learn that with time. I don't know who's right and who's wrong here, but assuming you had all the reasons in the world to think what you thought, there were other ways to make her understand what she lost. You used the wrong one. i keep thinking i should say sorry for saying shes selfish I don't think that will make you look any better. Or make you a better man. Unfortunately, you said mean things that are hard to forget, especially if she has pride. but i keep thinking after all ive done for her and she just went home and ended it with me by text she just kept saying making urself happy = selfish ok? should i just move on Saying that doesn't make you a gentleman. So did you break up with her or did she? havent heard from her since and she been on facebook chatting with freinds i could be dead wot should i do just leave it Seriously, can you blame her? Edited December 7, 2012 by justwhoiam Link to post Share on other sites
Author shyguy1980 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Share Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) u got it all incorrect she went home and was suppose to have returned in 2 weeks but sent me a txt saying she cant do this anymore with no other explanation so she dumped me. she said she was happier at home than at mine which i accept but why did i have to be dumped with that. in a week she had put her relationship status to single on facebook so i think i have every right to feel used and angry i even got a loan out for a holiday to egypt for us which i am now left with i couldnt have been that bad she stayed with me for 4 years Edited December 7, 2012 by shyguy1980 Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) Sorry to burst your bubble but you aren't actually entitled to anything, sure you can be pissed but she is a free person, if she is happier on her own then that is her choice. I'm confused you said you broke up with her? now you are saying she broke up with you? which is it? Sometimes people get complaisant and stay in relationships to maintain the status quo, not because they are actually happy but they feel they would rather be in a relationship that makes them unhappy than be alone. I don't understand this personally but I know plenty of people who do it, for years even. If you truly said those things to her than I really don't blame her for not wanting to be with you anymore, that is some really harsh stuff to be saying to someone you supposedly care about. It is also emotional black mail "look at all this stuff I did for you are a horrible person for not doing as I say" that is just lovely and charming isn't it? Why did she think you were going to commit suicide? Did you actually make threats of that nature, if so you really need to leave her alone and focus on yourself. That sort of blackmail just ain't on and its just wrong on so many levels. Maybe take a moment of introspection and look at your own behavior and learn from it for your next relationship. You can't control what she does, you can only control what you do yourself. I would advise you move on your relationship is over and there doesn't seem to be anything that can be salvaged at this point. Focus on yourself maybe go no contact for a while until you have calmed down at least any further contact will just prevent you from healing. Edited December 7, 2012 by Carenth 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author shyguy1980 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Share Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) i mean i broke up as in we broke up my mistake and i dont think im the only guy thats got in such a mess he wanted to commit suicide at the end of a relationship ive felt so hurt and alone and i only have my mum as family Edited December 7, 2012 by shyguy1980 Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 There is never a we broke up, there is one person that initiates it either way you should move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 7, 2012 Share Posted December 7, 2012 Just because other people have felt and acted like that doesn't justify ones actions that is a cop out. If you did actually threaten to kill yourself and told her that that is emotional black mail. I'm not trying to be a dick I've felt pretty dam horrible after break ups in the past but never in a million years would I tell my exes "hey you are a horrible <insert whatever here> you owe me for <insert random petty bull**** here> I'm going probably going to kill myself now because you want out of this relationship." that just ain't cool at all. Also please if you are having feelings like that get professional help from doctors. You really need to focus on yourself now and do things your enjoy, hang out with friends and family. Link to post Share on other sites
Author shyguy1980 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Share Posted December 7, 2012 i agree i know it was a stupid thing to say now guess i panicked and ive been through a lot in 2 years what with losing family and house so try not to judge i proberly do need help and will go for it thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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