Is she Playing or Not interested ?

[eternal.denied84]

Hi,

 

There is this girl at my work place with whom I have been interacting lately. I asked her out for coffee after couple of interactions to which she said-may be some time later.

 

After this we bumped into each other a number of times, talked about something something, and once couple of weeks passed by I reminded her saying that we should get to know each other some time. she said yeah we will.

 

couple of weeks passed by and I asked her out again to catch up on coffee to which she said-shall we do it tomorrow ? I said -yeah sure and I told her that this time you should inform me whenever you are free and we will go for it. Next day She never asked me out, I kept waiting.

 

Both the time she offered me a rain check , her excuse was that she is busy. I agree with her to some extent but not that she can't take out 10 minutes ??

 

Couple of days later we bump into each other and she talks as if nothing as happened..!

 

Questions:

1. Is she just playing around with me to see how far can I go ?

2. Did I give her indication of interest to early and she is gone for good ?

3. Is she absolutely not interested in me to take this casual chats any further and is only being a polite coworker by not shunning me off boldly?

 

Actions:

4. Should I let her know clearly that I like her and would like to know her more ? Doesn't she get this already through my repeating offers ?

5. Should I confront her saying that she shouldn't promise something if she doesn't mean it?

6. Should I ask her if she is absolutely not interested in me-she can tell it on my face, rather than being polite. ?

[road]

 

couple of weeks passed by and I asked her out again to catch up on coffee to which she said-shall we do it tomorrow ? I said -yeah sure and I told her that this time you should inform me whenever you are free and we will go for it.

 

 

So you had to go for the upper hand and she shot you down for that.

 

She didn't want to appear easy. So she started with the maybe's.

 

You ask her out again, nothing wrong with that.

 

She said YES, and she said how about tomorrow, then you go for the upper hand and tell her, and did I point out you are doing this after she said YES, let me know if you are free and well go out.

 

A girl that says yes to me I'll go out with you, how is tomorrow. I'm telling her Yes. I'm not going on any power trip games.

[GSB81]

1. No, and I doubt that, but she seems to be keeping you at a distance.

 

2. No, but dial it back a notch.

 

3. A painful possibility, pushing her will lead to shunning if you aren't careful.

 

4. No, if she hasn't picked up on it yet, she's an idiot.

 

5. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD NO! Confront her and you will be shunned and possibly end up in HR.

 

6. See #5.

[eternal.denied84]

Thanks guys. Its clear that she ain't interested.

 

I don't know if this info will change your answers but to give you complete picture-I kind of ignored her a couple of times to see that If she initiates the conversation - she does initiates the talk so is it possible that she is not absolutely disinterested in me ? Only wants me as a friend ? or just being cordial not to come out awkward ?

 

What is my best bet to get her interested in me. I know one can't force anyone to like one but I seem to like her very much so is there any thing at all I could do to get her on my side ?

[road]

Thanks guys. Its clear that she ain't interested.

 

I don't know if this info will change your answers but to give you complete picture-I kind of ignored her a couple of times to see that If she initiates the conversation - she does initiates the talk so is it possible that she is not absolutely disinterested in me ? Only wants me as a friend ? or just being cordial not to come out awkward ?

 

What is my best bet to get her interested in me. I know one can't force anyone to like one but I seem to like her very much so is there any thing at all I could do to get her on my side ?

 

 

You said lets go out a few times

 

The last time you ask her

 

She said hows tomorrow

 

Then you stuck your foot in your mouth

 

When pointed out that you stuck your foot in your mouth an messed up you totaly ignore this advice.

 

You need to go to a IC. Your social interaction skills are non existant.

 

Or your writing skills are sub par

 

Or both