Update - My Happy Ending

[LovelyLaura]

Hi guys..

I don't know if you remember me or not.

Lets say, i was a part of this community like 6 or 7 months ago.

Wow, time really flies..

 

Just want to give a quick update.

Hope it could inspire or maybe at least give some hope to all of you dear friend out there.

This community has helped me in my time of need.

I got so many wonderful advises, support, and yeaaah, some of hostile comment that actually really knocked some sense into my stubborn head back then

 

Little background story.

I was an OW with a lot older MM. He is my coworker. Has been married for 12 years (more or less, i didnt quite remember it) with 1 beautiful daughter.

Feed me the same old bull**** from Cheating 101 : How to lure a young girl into your arm?

Told me that he had a terrible marriage, never had sex since their young girl born, promise me to leave his wife, bla and bla and bla..

 

And naively, i fell for it.

Our affair lasted for 3 months, and then i just couldnt take it anymore.

Too much lying, deceiving, guilt, waiting in the dark, its all so frustrating.

 

We had a Dday, but BW never find out that it was me.

She though it just one time fling with some girl from his overseas trip.

So she quickly forgave him.

But not me.

I couldnt take it anymore, and literally told him to chose between me and BW.

I fought for my honor.

 

The funny thing he said that he loved me with all his heart, ofcourse he would chose me, but he need a little more time to calm things down first.

Translate : I chose my wife, but i still want to keep you there, you know, in case i want to have sex with you

 

But that's it..

Couldnt take it anymore. Really..

 

Went NC, but still no progress..

Going back and forth..

 

And one day, i just sicked of it.

Sicked of the short phone call when xMM was walking the dog or on his way home.

Sicked of the secret meeting in a motel.

Sicked of all the lying, excuse, and deceiving act.

And getting tired of all the drama, all the tear, wondering, expecting, lingering, guilt, scary thought of being caught..

 

That's my turning point.

 

Keep strong LC with him.

Couldnt go complete NC, because he is my coworker.

Got transferred to one of the branch in another city.

Met a wonderful young single man.

 

He heard about it, got jealous like hell.

Sent me hundreds messages, voice mails, told me that he missed me so much, he was a wreck without me, bla bla bla..

 

But no, i have my future upfront.

Never in my life i would put myself in that position again.

 

Met him in the office, and he acted like nothing's ever happened.

Call me sweety, darling, dear, cutie pie..

Oh god, what a man..

 

Told him blatantly to shut it up or i will file a sexual harassment charge.

I guess it scared him.

But until now, he is still there, with his occasional (drunk) text and voice mail. Completely ignored all his crap..

 

Now, i have a very healthy serious relationship with a gorgeous fantastic (ofcourse single ) man..

The one that i met before, and trust me.. I never thought myself could fall in love again, and even met this wonderful guy.

He is everything that i wanted in a man.

He knows my story, all of it, and still accept me for who i am.

And ladies, it feels damn good when i can go out, holding hand with my dearest one in a sunny day.. no more quickie in the dark alley i guess

 

Went to fantastic 7d/6n holiday in Bali with my man.

Last month, we went to Thailand for 2 weeks straight.

What a trip!!

Cant have enough of it

 

And again, it feels damn good when i am the top priority of my man life, when i can go out, planning a trip with him without sneaking out from someone's back.

 

We plan to marry next year, in the summer of 2013.

Just a little ceremony in Tirtha Uluwatu Chapel.

Its a small beautiful Chapel located in Bali.

 

Life really goes on ladies, it does..

 

And im so sorry if you have an impression that i put this story here just to show off.. No, i dont have the slightest idea of doing that.

You were there for me during my hardest time.

I just think that i need to share this to all of you.

To show that yes, there is always a happy ending for everyone if you choose the right path, if you choose your own happiness..

 

Be strong

[mlpony]

awesome ending, girl. You were strung along for a long time, but you broke through and found happiness. And you deserve to be happy!!! I'm so glad to hear that you had a great vacation and I wish you many more happy years with your new man :-)

[Summer Breeze]

I remember you as well. I'm so happy you've moved on and found happiness. I think the only thing I'd like to add is to make sure you've given yourself enough time to get over things and to build a solid base with your new guy. I'm not being negative, I really want this to work out for you! I'll PM you my address for the wedding invitation!

[veryhappy]

Great ending, and good for you for standing your ground and moving on.

 

Nothing works better with these cowards men than threats. If you want to get rid of him completely tell your fiance to let him know that his W will get all the details. I guarantee you won't hear a peep from him.

[missy268]

Fantastic! i wish you all the happiness in the world with your man x x

[whichwayisup]

When one door closes, another opens! Congrats on realizing that you were wasting your precious time, love and energy on someone who wasn't ever going to be fully yours!

 

Glad you met someone who can fulfill all your needs.

[Tenacity]

This is a terrific ending - thank you for sharing it! I wish you all the happiness in the world. Congratulations on taking charge of your life.

 

I feel sorry for his W.

[underwater2010]

Congratulations on finding a great new man. I wish you every happiness that may come. What a great way to show that POS what you are truly worth!!!!