a 4th chance?

[rainy/days]

i started dating my husband at 15 he was 18. we got married 4 years later and to my heart and mind he was the best i saw no flaw in him and yes we had normal disagreements but thought we were happy.1 year after marriage he confesses to having sex with a woman at a party during our engagement time.i forgave him. after 2 years he confesses again that 3 months after marriage he made out with a friend but stopped communication with her after.then after a work party he gave a male and female coworkers a ride home the two coworkers starting having sex he was looking at everything thrue the mirriror and the woman started to touch him but then he told her to stop.all this has really affed our marriage to the point of talking separation and having lots of problems he recently to allowing oral sex from a coworker 3 times he said she made him feel good and forgot all of our problemsw ith her, but now he is repented and says he recognizes he is in love with me and is sorry and wants to work things out for usand our 3 year old daughter . i love him still i think its because i know i changed with him and became a boring person.i dont know what to do

[jags2bowl27]

not to be rude but your kidding right? I think of it this way, I wouldnt want a person that knew how to cheat 3 past times to have any influence on my 3 yr old daughter. How would that look when she grows up and see that her dad took advantage of her mom not once, not twice, but THREE TIMES.

 

lol.... you should be ashamed to even want him back

[lovesick1]

Breaking up for other reasons besides cheating... that can be a different story. Why would you want him back if he cheated multiple times? Ever heard of the phrase "Once a cheater always a cheater?" Get rid of him

[rainy/days]

i understand everyone that tells me to leave him. yes i feel stupid he has no morals and were is the commitment of when we got married to respect and be faithful but my heart loves him . how can it be so hard to leave him how can i love him so much i feel i need to be valued by him and loved.i feel like this should be the last chance ever i want that farytale i dreamed about with him i want that happy family but i cant think about being with anothr man. he seems so regretful this time so sincere he has showed so much care and apreciation to me since the confession .i dont know until when its gonna last but i just cant end it not knowing if this was gonna be it. the last chance to make it right? he says he dosent know why he is so weak with women when he loves me and that he is willing to go to counceling.he has started to check in from work every hr to make sure we okay he has been spending alot more time at home with us and is showing a whole different face . he has always been bored with our marriage saying i changed totaly aftre our engament i stoped being fun and instead of 19 acted like a 50 year old lady .he sais he want me to be the girl he met fun outgoing free spirit relaxed and whiling to go to a bar once in a while

[rainy/days]

thanks for your reply i know what u mean and yes i do feel foolish by staying but have u ever cheated why did u do it? or did u walk away after being cheated?i love him why? i dont know . maybe because im in love with the guy that was 18 and then he changed.

[rainy/days]

I have heard that phrase meny times and it echos in my mind that he is never gonna change but in reality I never changed either. Men look outside cuz they don't have something at home to b honest he always told me what he needed and I have always been that needy nagging wife that dosent let hi do anything and puts him down evry chance I get he says I don't think when I talk and that some things I say hurt him till this day. Im not sying its my fault for him cheating its his own selfish person but I feel like I didn't take care of him how I should of. Do u understand what im trying to say?