vettedreams2001 Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 OK, it's been forever since I wrote in this forum, but I am at my wits end...so confused. I am sure a lot of people would understand. Here it goes. I have been married for about two years, known her for three. I am soo unhappy and we've tried counseling, which we are in our third location for counseling. I have been trying to make her see what the problems our with our relationship from the first month in, NOW she sees what's going on and I feel that it's too late. I've thought long and hard and I don't love her, or ever have. I got married for the wrong reasons and now I am paying for it. We started off on the wrong foot by me breaking up with my ex and hooking up with her the same night. From then it's been resentment and hatred by cheating, until we got married. It's even been at the physical level a few times before, I have only restrained her and slapped her back once because I know my strength, ( my friends always joke about my wife kicking my ass) just slaps mind you. I am not myself and very unhappy around her. The only kick is, she doesn't want a divorce or separation, and I do (badly). And I worry about my 8 month old son, that she threatens to take away ( even though I know that its for the courts to decide), I am just sooooo confused and it's making my work and my home life suffer. Please help Jared Link to post Share on other sites
snilljente Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 No matter what happens in the end, if you split up or stay together, you need to get into a good counselor right away....no amount of physical abuse should be going on and your son is being subjected to it. Will she go with you to counseling? I would require it as things sound pretty bad...she may or may not be willing to go...but then you will know that she is not willing to work on a relationship that desperately needs it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vettedreams2001 Posted August 12, 2004 Author Share Posted August 12, 2004 It took awhile to get her to go initially, but then she figured it was for the best. My son is out of the room or at our friends house when we have gotten into these situations, I know he feels the tension. Is there such a thing as true love? Link to post Share on other sites
snilljente Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 I don't know about the true love thing....I am probably not the person to ask....my husband left after spending 12 years together (I am only 35 now) and I finally met someone I thought was the ONE this summer and he "disappeared" on me (i.e. not returning calls, messages...no explanation)....I sometimes wonder about love at all....people are so unbelievably good liars/actors....it's scary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author vettedreams2001 Posted August 15, 2004 Author Share Posted August 15, 2004 I am sooo sorry. I wish things would've worked better for ya. Unfortunately, I am one of those good actors. But people get crazy when they try and fabricate something that is not meant to be fabricated but is something that is felt. Jack is waiting gotta go. Link to post Share on other sites
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