brokengirl3 Posted December 8, 2012 Share Posted December 8, 2012 Hello friends my ex dumped me for anorther girl 7 days ago(after 1 year relationship).I was crying and begging him do not leave me(iknow how foolish is that). Anw the next day of break up send me a text saying sorry for hurting me since im a very special person etc.I did not replied and 2 days later he send me another text asking to tell him if im ok!Again i did not replied and 15 min later he texted again saying that he understand but not to be sure of what im thinking.Of course following the NC rule i did not replied again. Now i want your opinion !Why he is texting me?He feels quilty?Although he got no answer he will text me again?In that case what i supposed to do?Continue Nc?Although he hurt me i love him so much i thought he was my soulmate .Im very confused and my heart still bleading ps:sorry for my english! Link to post Share on other sites
livelife Posted December 8, 2012 Share Posted December 8, 2012 He feels guilty. As he should. Keep NC. Unless he shows up to you IN PERSON and apologizes, keep NC going. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Stay strong 3 Link to post Share on other sites
sissy88 Posted December 8, 2012 Share Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) keep to NC and just live your life. he might...and most prbably, thats how the human psyche works..be feeling guilty not bc he wants you...its bc he doesnt want to feel like the bad guy from the story. But I dont know the whole thing...also u should think abt whether ud want to be with someone who sometimes feels wants to b w u, and other times isnt sure... If he dumped you for a girl already, not like go into single mode, then figure things out, etc, and eventually find someone else...if he did this, he just doesnt care for you..but there is definitely someone for you, theres someone for everyone, and i know it hurts and ur devastated and u might feel like its the end of your life, world, universe, and feel so vulnerable and broken and sad and all, but, just keep your head and heart up high. I went through a breakup from a 8 year relationship 2 years ago,...it wasnt meant to be. And Im ok with that now. I naturally focused on getting over the whole situation, moving on w life, ...focused on myself, my friends, my likes..Im a better person today, and I gained my life back. I dont know wut future holds for me or anybody, but Im def happy about myself bc I know myself more..all I know is it was a great learning experience and Im eager to live. You'll live too. Everybody does. Except those who insist on living in the past, they will never live in the now, which is what only matters. Hold tight! Edited December 8, 2012 by sissy88 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Share Posted December 8, 2012 (edited) In my opinion he left me because lately i was telling him by texts,in person,on the phone how much i love him want him -too much attention-no space for him!Although im 30 i can not control myself when im in love or playing games so as to keep the fire!However we had a very nice relationship before this!I saw myself into him !He had excellent communication, same point of view we were best friends and very much in love!He broke my heart ,i never thought that this person will ever hurt me or leave me!Unfortunately he did!He told me to continue our life ! I was crying about 4 hrs on the phone.He cried as well !i dont know if he is inlove with an ex or its a new love !!Sorry im a good person but i can not wish him the best!!!i want him to come back in tears telling how fool he was! !Is there any posibility to text me again?to still loving me? Edited December 8, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 what do u think?any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
LostOne1 Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 All I can say is maybe give him some breathing room. I know its HARD for you.. but for awhile STOP all contact with him. Maybe he needs some time away from you to miss you. I know it's hard for you.. but PLEASE don't contact him. Give it a few weeks and see how things go. The more you contact him the more it will hurt. So FIND some way to NOT talk to him in anyway. it's hard advice and might sound crazy to hear or do... but you NEED to do it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) Yes,Its VERY HARD not to talk to him especially when i know that new gf (im not sure-if they have an affair)has all that free space to make him love her!!Im thinking of them kissing and having sex and im getting crazy!!!!!Today is the worst day since we BU (day 7) !Im trying to keep up nc being strong and not contact him but i dont want to forget me either!!: Edited December 9, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 He left you for another woman. Partly because you were showering with too much attention (in your opinion). Continuing the same behavior will not make him drop his new woman and get back to you. The only thing you can do right now is ignore him and not reply to his messages. I really it is extremely difficult, but there is not really anything you can do to make him interested in you again and wanting to get back together. He might stop contacting you after a few days if you do not reply, but that does not mean he stopped thinking about you. Don't react my contacting him suddenly then, but stay strong, and he will keep wondering about you and why you don't reply, and maybe a few months from now he will contact you again, asking you if you want to meet up for coffee or something. Then you can decided if you want to see him, or if you have moved on already. The only thing you can hold on to right now is your pride, don't let it go! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 Thanks for the support Gottabestrong nice and motivated nickname by the way!I will keep NC although i miss him so much!i dont know if he will ever text me again since he texted me already 3 times without getting any reply from me! I quess if im so important to him and his soulmate as i thought(still believe it) he will! Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted December 9, 2012 Share Posted December 9, 2012 Exactly. If he really cares he will contact you again. If he is looking for an excuse Christmas and New Years are coming up. Many exes use that as an excuse to get back in touch without losing face. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 When we were together he never called or texted me first! His ego not allowed him.i dont have any hope for Xmas love, probably he will spend the day with his new gf i can not stop thinking of this part ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Share Posted December 9, 2012 Im writting here instead of calling him!im loosing control it drives my crazy i want him i love him , i want to listen to his voice!!!!!!!!F*ck him !!why he hurt me? i love him so much i gave him everything i dont deserve this pain!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Share Posted December 10, 2012 good morning from Europe! im so f*cking weak again!im looking every 5 minutes my cellphone and wait to flash!I think he will never contact me again !! Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 You will get bored of looking at the phone. Not jumping to see who texted or called takes longer. Unless you block him...just a thought Hang in there it gets better Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 10, 2012 Author Share Posted December 10, 2012 (edited) i want to break NC just to ask him if he is thinking of me !i know i should stay strong etc !Even quit smoking was easier for me !! Edited December 10, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Don't contact him. Even if he is thinking of you, that does not change the fact that he left you for someone else. Don't chase after someone who doesn't want you anymore. You are worth more than that. Go out and meet new people instead! It will remind you that there are other men out there and that he is not the only one who can make you happy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 Hello!It was a very difficult night but i did not contact him!I will be honest with you! i dont want to over him...i just want him back!i dont want to meet new people..!I want him! Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 11, 2012 Author Share Posted December 11, 2012 (edited) UPDATE: I DONT WHANT THIS AS****LE back !!!HE IS 29 AND NEVER HAD A PROPER JOB N-E-V-E-R and HE NEVER WILL !The new girl can keep him!!! everything happens for a reason!!! Edited December 11, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 UPDATE: I DONT WHANT THIS AS****LE back !!!HE IS 29 AND NEVER HAD A PROPER JOB N-E-V-E-R and HE NEVER WILL !The new girl can keep him!!! everything happens for a reason!!! good, keep thinking about that! He is a loser, 29 yrs old and never had a real job?! The fk? How did he pay for things? He was most def cheating on you if he had a new gf within a week, so remember that as well. never called or text you once? sheesh. This guy has a s.hit list a mile long!! You need to learn not to settle for losers like him! A man that is into you will put aside his "pride" and call you, that's for sure. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Share Posted December 12, 2012 Yes he is a loser he never had a job , never worked, and is kept by his parents !I know he was cheating on me!The new gf was the reason he dumped me! NC day 10 he already texted me 3 times!Once to say sorry for hurting me blah blah (NCday 1) one to find out how im doing and one that he understand why im not replying (NC4). Now 11 days after BU I feel stronger and maybe he saved me by dumping me!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 12, 2012 Author Share Posted December 12, 2012 (edited) i want to talk to him again! i dont know why i still thinking of this jerk !I want to ask him so many things!WHEN WHY WHAT!!!im freaking out!falling again!! Edited December 12, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 Do you think that talking to him will make you feel better? Even if he is mean or tells you that he is happier without you or does not want to get back together? You are probably going to think about him for a while, don't expect that to stop any time soon, but that is completely normal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 (edited) i think taliking to him hearing his voice will make me feel better!im addicted to him !we were talking every single days for 9 months !NC day 11 its soooooooooooooo difficult!!!!!!! Edited December 13, 2012 by brokengirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gottabestrong Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 So it is going to feel like a hit for a drug addict, who then has to start withdrawal from scratch? Look, if he was a decent guy, and he broke up with you for reasons beyond his control, or because you were just not in the same place right now, I'd say call him, see if hearing his voice will numb your pain for a little while and help you to move on with your life. But if I understand correctly he cheated on your and treated you badly. A guy like that is not good for you, and you calling him will make you feel bad because you are chasing after someone who betrayed you. Please, Sweetie, if you can, don't contact him. In the long run you will feel better, I promise you. Hugs! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Tiera D Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 imagine this he says hi how are you doing and say all bullsht sorry what not and tell you he missed you and what not in the end when you get your hopes up he asked you a question,"can we be buddies? in the end,he gets an ego boost and you get a smash on your head.Think about it,personally i never take back cheaters,i believe in once a cheater always a cheater,stay NC and be strong and rest assured hes racking out his brains right now TD Link to post Share on other sites
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