Author brokengirl3 Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 i think i will contact him to understand that is over !is nothing else i can do at the moment.nc killed me! Link to post Share on other sites
movingon12 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 1) I want to see how he feels about me, 2) if he loves me ,3) if he missed me, 4) if he is thiking of me all the time like i do.i deleted him from fbook not replied to his texts and i quess is 5) difficult for him to contact me again although he maybe want it! 1) He feels like you were a nice girl, and he had fun with you, and that's it. 2) No. He loved you (maybe) before, but now you're just an ex. 3) Probably, sometimes, but not enough to want you back again. 4) He isn't. Sometimes something will remind him of you, but it won't make him want to get back together with you. 5) It's not difficult to contact someone who blocks you, all you need to do is set up a another facebook account. My ex did this. Lots of people do this everyday. Your ex hasn't done this because he doesn't have anything to say to you. I know it's awful. I know it is. But he had you, and decided he wanted someone else. You have to accept this so you can move on. TRUST ME: there will come in a time in the future when you will remember this guy and think 'wtf did I see in him??' 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 Apologies to all of you friends!! i wll text or call him!Let me do it once!i want to find out !im in pain!nothing worst than nc! Link to post Share on other sites
movingon12 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Obviously, it's up to you. But I promise you, if you contact him, you will feel worse than you do now. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 1) He feels like you were a nice girl, and he had fun with you, and that's it. 2) No. He loved you (maybe) before, but now you're just an ex. 3) Probably, sometimes, but not enough to want you back again. 4) He isn't. Sometimes something will remind him of you, but it won't make him want to get back together with you. 5) It's not difficult to contact someone who blocks you, all you need to do is set up a another facebook account. My ex did this. Lots of people do this everyday. Your ex hasn't done this because he doesn't have anything to say to you. I know it's awful. I know it is. But he had you, and decided he wanted someone else. You have to accept this so you can move on. TRUST ME: there will come in a time in the future when you will remember this guy and think 'wtf did I see in him??' Movinon12 is right..AGAIN...you need to start charging for you advise .. Obviously NC is what needs to happen. Have you ever seen someone benefiting from contacting the EX to get hit with a truck load of reality? Just wondering. I guess the risk is stringing yourself along for months until your more messed up than before. I think some people might need to do this although i wouldn't recommend it. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Obviously, it's up to you. But I promise you, if you contact him, you will feel worse than you do now. Agreed. Please post on how you feel after. And if the devastation helps open your eyes some. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
cavalier99 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 (edited) Apologies to all of you friends!! i wll text or call him!Let me do it once!i want to find out !im in pain!nothing worst than nc! If you can actually go like 3 weeks to month NC the complete insanity starts to go away and time returns to normal and you can actually think logically instead of emotionally. Maybe try to get to the new year? Then asses at that point by posting here? Just my observation. Edited December 14, 2012 by cavalier99 1 Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Really?they were making fun of you? My ex is not such a person but if i will contact him i thing i will lose the game 4 ever? Can you stop being delusional. "he is not such a person" ... im sorry to break it to you baby girl but He IS such a person. he is a liar, because he wasnt honest, a cheater, because if you have a new girl in a week is because you were already making moves. If your avatar is you, then you are gorgeous. Stand up. Take a deep breathe. get that phone. Block his Sorry A**. Let that girl deal with that broke A***, lying, sack of rice cakes. you will do better. some things have to fall apart so better things can come together. and you are the winning factor here. why? because you have gained your freedom from the douche. you are free to meet a handsome, smart, funny man. that can keep a job and who will call you first. DO not contact him. stay strong and i bet you in due time... you will be glowing with happiness and that is the best revenge you can ever get. If He's upSEt you dont Stress, and NEVER FORGET THAT KARMA ISNT FINISHED WITH HIM YET. --Yessy Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 SIIIIIGH. Really?they were making fun of you? My ex is not such a person but if i will contact him i thing i will lose the game 4 ever? He's not such a person?! He CHEATED on you! But you think he is above laughing at you? He was laughing at you and your naivety the whole time he was disrespecting and cheating on you. Who cares if you lose him forever!? He is a loser with no job and no morals! i think i will contact him to understand that is over !is nothing else i can do at the moment.nc killed me! Oh god. He knows it's over, he is the one who ended it.....remember? Please don't embarrass yourself by chasing a cheater. Have some dignity. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 i broke it!! i know!just ask him how he is!he is fine!i dont know .i think im ok now! Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Listen to them, you will feel worse indeed. And worse, since you broke the NC, you will continue to contact him to the point where he tells you to eff-off and quit stalking him and his gf. Imagine how that will feel. Please say you didn't contact him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 i broke it!! i know!just ask him how he is!he is fine!i dont know .i think im ok now! Ugh. I hope I'm wrong in above post. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 are u single ?if not if u have a friend available with a job give him my phone:) Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 are u single ?if not if u have a friend available with a job give him my phone:) I'm not single. In fact I'm married to the woman I met after my awful breakup I thank my ex every day for dumping me and leading me to the love of my life. You will too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 ooo 10000000000 like!!!!!!!hopefully i will meet my soulmate then after this!! urgent:i told him i would like to speak on the phone and said yes but i donw know what to say!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 ooo 10000000000 like!!!!!!!hopefully i will meet my soulmate then after this!! urgent:i told him i would like to speak on the phone and said yes but i donw know what to say!!!!!! your pathetic. thats what he is going to say when he laughs at you while he is telling her how you harrassed him. Believe me he will do it. because you have given him an ego boost. Lay down and go to sleep because the crash of depression is going to hit you soon. Link to post Share on other sites
nells87 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 ooo 10000000000 like!!!!!!!hopefully i will meet my soulmate then after this!! urgent:i told him i would like to speak on the phone and said yes but i donw know what to say!!!!!! There's nothing to say. He's with someone else. He doesn't want you. I know how painful it is but you have to dig deep, accept that and move on. I'm struggling with NC myself. It's been 3 weeks since I contacted my ex. It's a really painful process but you have to push through cos there's no other way. The last time I broke up with my ex I didn't understand the power of NC so I would contact him periodically because I was in pain/missed him/needed answers and it was a year of excruciating pain with me never really moving forward. Hence me jumping back into the same bulls*it relationship. So that's why I know that I have to push through this time. There is no other choice. I would advise you not to speak to him. Delete his number, block and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 ooo 10000000000 like!!!!!!!hopefully i will meet my soulmate then after this!! urgent:i told him i would like to speak on the phone and said yes but i donw know what to say!!!!!! JFC. Tell him you changed your mind and you have nothing to say. STOP contacting him! You are making yourself look pathetic chasing after a man who so blatantly disrespected you. Don't you have any pride, any self-respect?! You are nowhere ready to date anyone. Let this relationship go, heal from it, work on whatever issue led you to think dating an unemployed loser 29 yr old overgrown frat-boy was a good idea, and THEN look to date others. Actual men, not big kids who use you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 15, 2012 Author Share Posted December 15, 2012 First of all i would like to thank you for all the support!!I have news!We were talking for about 4 hrs !He said to me there is none in his life that he loves and all of this 12 days were a hell for him .He was asking questions to see my feelings and he tried to make me to saying that i still love him too but i didnt!I was cold turkey!Anyway i will go to NC again to see what he will do!!i can not accept him back easily !what do u think? Link to post Share on other sites
lovefiction Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I know it seems unbearable right now but it does get easier... I found that reading books (even books on how to fix the relatioship, getting back together etc.) help to get past the need to call... If there is anything you can do that takes you away from your phone... Sometimes I "forget" my phone at home just so I can't keep checking it... My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago after two years but it has happened before - I find anything to distract me... exercise is really good, especially if you want him to come back - focus on yourself and becoming the best person you can be... Someone he would want to be with... ... keep strong... Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 15, 2012 Author Share Posted December 15, 2012 I know it seems unbearable right now but it does get easier... I found that reading books (even books on how to fix the relatioship, getting back together etc.) help to get past the need to call... If there is anything you can do that takes you away from your phone... Sometimes I "forget" my phone at home just so I can't keep checking it... My boyfriend and I broke up about a week ago after two years but it has happened before - I find anything to distract me... exercise is really good, especially if you want him to come back - focus on yourself and becoming the best person you can be... Someone he would want to be with... ... keep strong... hello lovefiction!If u read my above post you will see that already talk to him !He said that he loves me miss me etc but i think i will go nc again to see what he will do! Link to post Share on other sites
movingon12 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Hello friends my ex dumped me for anorther girl 7 days ago(after 1 year relationship). ... When we were together he never called or texted me first! His ego not allowed him. ... Yes he is a loser he never had a job , never worked, and is kept by his parents !I know he was cheating on me!The new gf was the reason he dumped me! And you want this guy back why exactly? Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 15, 2012 Author Share Posted December 15, 2012 Movigon i dont know if i want him back!im in love with him i dont know how to handle this! what do you think i should do? Link to post Share on other sites
movingon12 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 I think you should realise you deserve better than this. There is a guy out there who won't cheat on you, who won't make you do all the work in the relationship and then blame you for showing affection, who won't dump you and who will make you feel loved, secure and happy. And the longer you waste time on this cheating loser, the longer it will take for you to find the guy who is going to make you happy. Don't answer his calls. Don't reply to his texts. Your relationship clearly had problems before you broke up and if you get back together it will be worse because you'll be suspicious of him all the time and he'll get sick of feeling guilty. Write 'I CAN DO BETTER' in big letters on bits of paper and stick them all over your house and on your phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl3 Posted December 15, 2012 Author Share Posted December 15, 2012 Thanks Movingon12 !Look i understand what you are saying BUT what about my feelings ?how to move on if my heart belongs to him?Im not stupid im just in love i want you to know this! i have brain!!However i can not see a clear picture due to my feellings ! Link to post Share on other sites
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