StillHurtin Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 I probably already know the answer to this but wanted to ask. If your M is ending (spouse filed for a divorce and you weren't living 2gether) and they go and sleep w/ someone else, is it still cheating? The M is ending, only that it hasn't ended through the courts. My dh filed for a divorce on April 7th, on April 10th I made him leave. The A started. I don't know if he was sleeping w/ the OW when he was still living w/ me but he claims it wasn't. Dh never said it wasn't cheating on me b/c he filed for a divorce. He admits he had an A and it was wrong and how sorry he was. He said that when he filed for a D he was starting his life over w/ the OW. Even though the marriage is over but not final through the courts and you both go on w/ your lives is the A still cheating on your spouse? Link to post Share on other sites
Mr Spock Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 Legally or morally? Link to post Share on other sites
ringo Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 "Anything that you wouldn't do in front of your spouse is inappropriate behavior". It's cheating - because you are still married as the divorce wasn't final. If you dating, and you separate and someone sleeps w/OM or OW - I don't know if this would be cheating or not. Either way you look at it, if you separate (married or not) and the SO goes off and has sex with someone else and later comes back to you - it's still going to be painful knowledge to carry... just knowing they were with someone besides YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
Pocky Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 If one has moved out of the shared living space and filed for divorce I don't think that it is cheating if they enter into another relationship or date. The marriage is over; ties have been severed and the only thing that has to be done is for the courts to sign the paper. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted August 11, 2004 Share Posted August 11, 2004 Sleeping with someone else, while you are in a relationship, is cheating. Seeing as your marriage has not officially ended, I would say this means you two are still technically married. So, if he slept with someone, and you are still married, this would mean that he slept with someone while in a relationship with you. I think that yes, he cheated. I find it interesting that he filed for the divorce, when he had cheated on you previously. He, himself, gave you good enough reason to file divorce on him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted August 11, 2004 Author Share Posted August 11, 2004 Well, morally, dh thought it was over between us, so he wanted to start his life over w/ the OW. On the otherhand, the divorce wasn't final. He filed and a week or two later he was sleeping w/ OW. Then he decides that she isn't all what she thought she would be, so he came crawling back to me. The spent most of their time at work 2gether. He never went to see her at her house, they didn't go do anything 2gether, she didn't come to OUR house. They didn't spend much time 2gether outside of work until I kicked his butt out. I think once he had that chance to spend time outside of work w/her she wasn't what he wanted. He has told me a lot of things that just bugged the s*** out of him and he knew then it wouldn't work. I should of told him tough s***!!! You chose her weird a$$, now you can live w/ her. But I couldn't, I loved him enough to take him back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author StillHurtin Posted August 11, 2004 Author Share Posted August 11, 2004 Originally posted by faux Sleeping with someone else, while you are in a relationship, is cheating. Seeing as your marriage has not officially ended, I would say this means you two are still technically married. So, if he slept with someone, and you are still married, this would mean that he slept with someone while in a relationship with you. I think that yes, he cheated. I find it interesting that he filed for the divorce, when he had cheated on you previously. He, himself, gave you good enough reason to file divorce on him. Thanks for replying. H didn't have an A until after he filed for a D. He said he didn't sleep w/ her until he filed and I kicked him out of the house. Do I beleive him? Yes, b/c he has been telling me the truth since that A. He admitted to me about everything, however he did lie to me at first when I found out about the A from friends and the OW's H. Now, if he would of had the A w/o filing for a D I honestly can't say what I would of done. I probably would of moved and if he continued the A then I would of filed for a D. Link to post Share on other sites
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