Is this normal?

[Kbear]

My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and have lived together over a year now. Recently about 2 weeks ago we were having some problems. He was "confused", and didn't know what he wanted for his future, or what he wanted with "us." I was heart broken. He finally stopped treating me like I didn't exist, and we started going about more of our daily routine. We talked about the problem he was having but nothing really concrete had been resolved. Now I am starting to find myself realizing that there are things about this relationship that I want changed or to be different. Like I feel I crave attention from him, because he is wrapped up in his own hobbies, that we never spend time together of talk or even have fun. I think we got to that part were it stopped being fun and started becoming like a routine and I don't want that. I understand things are not always fun and new, but I feel like this is just not how it is supposed to be. Also we have a mutual friend that is female. She is my bf's buddies gf. My bf calls her and she calls him sometimes just to say hello. That pisses me of beyond anything else. I would never call up his buddies just to say hi. I think that is inappropriate. there is nothing sexual going on between them, but they do get along better then I would like. I think I am jealous because she is getting the attention that I am supposed to be getting. I guess what I am asking is, Is it normal for me to be having all these feelings after we just went through our first ever big bump in the road? Should I ignore them? Should I tell him all these little things I can't stand? The worst part of all is now whenever he shows me any affection at all , I can't help but think that he is acting or faking his feelings because he doesn't want to upset me. I know I shouldn't have to feel like that. I hate this!

[Bubbles]

It is VERY normal for you to have these feelings - especially since you are not getting the attention that you need from him. I understand that 100%! But.....if you know that there is nothing funky going on between the two of them then you really should not feel threatened. After-all you never know......maybe he is asking HER questions about the realationship about how HE should be conducting himself?

 

If you have no reason to doubt the girls intentions......why don't you call her yourself? There's nothing wrong with telling your side of the story too isn't there? Just call her and when she asks "what's up?" just tell her that you are feeling bloo about your relationship with your b/f and just wanted to chat. If she is a friend to BOTH of you then I am sure she will have a chat with you........and if you play your cards right......maybe you can tell HER a few things that you would want your b/f to know (indirectly).

 

Bubbles

[simplybrill]

Having been the girl that got along with the boyfriend better than the girlfriend did...I would say when you do finally get to speak with her, just be calm, and dont all out say you think she's trying to steal him away.

 

Good luck girlie, Ive been in both situations, I went through this same thing with my ex, only the girl was actually hugging him all close and calling him sweety before I broke up with him because I couldnt trust him. Many other things factored into my ulitmate decision to break it off.

[bambi_4]

My ex was close friends with my bestfriend as I was with his bestfriend(male). I trusted him and he trusted me. I also trusted my friend. It never gave problems. I even found out the odd bit of gossip.