I kissed my best friends girlfriend!!!

[TKxyle]

Okay, so two nights ago I went to a bar with one of my best friends and his girlfriend. We got really drunk, especially my friend, who threw up in the bar, and was kicked out. We went to another bar where we could sit, so my friend could calm down a little.

 

When he was sitting there, me and his girl went to the dancefloor. Then I basically tried to kiss her and we kissed for like 1 second (our tongues touched) and we both quickly broke it off. (note: we were both drunk) My friend didn't see anything, because he had gone outside.

 

I've already talked to the girl the next day and we've decided to not tell anybody and I apologised to her for trying to kiss her. However, I feel really guilty and ashamed for breaking the bro code like that. Also, someone who knew the girl had seen us dancing, but she says she has taken care of that.

 

I don't think my friend suspects anything, but I don't really trust the girl isn't going to tell. I'm not in love with the girl or anything and I really don't want to lose my friend.

 

What should I do??? Tell him or hope he doesn't find out? And if I tell him, how do I tell him?

 

I'm 16 btw

[GLDheart]

Tell your friend. You may lose him... or he may thank you for letting him know what kind of girl he's with. Either way living with the lie is the cowards way. Be a man. Own this.

[Nightsky]

You kissed her, and than she broke it off quick. Yeah she's going to tell him. You're a bad best friend. Look you made a mistake, just try to learn from it and realize that when this probably comes out you'll most likely lose a friend.

[nofool4u]

What should I do??? Tell him or hope he doesn't find out? And if I tell him, how do I tell him?

 

I'm 16 btw

 

If you made a move on his girlfriend, then really what do you care? Because if you initiated the kiss, then you aren't a friend to him much less his "best" friend.

 

And what are you doing in a bar at 16?

 

I'd tell you to tell him if you have any respect for him at all and if you consider him a friend.

 

If you don't want to tell him, then don't consider him a friend. Nobody needs a friend like that.

[Clockwork]

you have to tell him. It'll come out eventually. the damage will be double then

[Bumaga vsyo sterpit]

Whatever man! Don't hurt your head thinking about this BS, just rock on and be 16. I wasted my teens thinking about stuff. Don't tell your friend; if you get to do more with the girl, why not?

 

And what's wrong with being in a bar at 16? He's 16, not six.

[Leigh 87]

You kissed her, and than she broke it off quick. Yeah she's going to tell him. You're a bad best friend. Look you made a mistake, just try to learn from it and realize that when this probably comes out you'll most likely lose a friend.

 

 

My boyfriends best friend tried to kiss me.

 

They are no longer friends.

 

I could not keep it to myself; I cared about my boyfriend too much. I had too many feelings for him in order to hide something that big from him.

 

...The dude blamed me, said I was disgusting and that he would never have kissed me; tried to blame me, telling everyone that I initiated it....

 

 

 

Look, you may lose your best friend, In fact, I am sure you will. But you will have your dignity intact; you did something bad, and owning up to it will give you what you deserve.

 

Take the high road; tell your best friend. And then get the punishment you deserve, and get on with your life and never make the same mistake.

 

 

 

look man, your 16, and I can assue you: the more dignity and self respect you have, the more you will love yourself later in life.

[sayyes19]

My boyfriends best friend tried to kiss me.

 

They are no longer friends.

 

I could not keep it to myself; I cared about my boyfriend too much. I had too many feelings for him in order to hide something that big from him.

 

...The dude blamed me, said I was disgusting and that he would never have kissed me; tried to blame me, telling everyone that I initiated it....

 

 

 

Look, you may lose your best friend, In fact, I am sure you will. But you will have your dignity intact; you did something bad, and owning up to it will give you what you deserve.

 

Take the high road; tell your best friend. And then get the punishment you deserve, and get on with your life and never make the same mistake.

 

 

 

look man, your 16, and I can assue you: the more dignity and self respect you have, the more you will love yourself later in life.

I agree with your reply. I know when I was 16 a lot of reactions depended on where you were on the totem poll, but I know that if I did this I would fully expect my friend to punch me and he would expect the same. Not cool.

[salparadise]

There sure are a lot of people who believe in the purely theoretical interpretation that concludes in, you must come clean and tell all. I don't think it's nearly that simple. Telling your friend doesn't absolve you; what happened happened whether or not you spill your guts. The difference is that by telling your friend you will be multiplying the damage... he will probably lose you as a friend, possibly the girlfriend too since you telling him would mean that she did not and he's likely to feel that as a betrayal. You've already agreed with her to not tell. What happened was a momentary indiscretion, under the influence of alcohol, that you both regret, and it doesn't need to result in him losing two of his most valuable relationships. My advice is to bear the burden alone to protect your friend, his relationship with his girlfriend and your friendship. Reaffirm with the girl that this will never be mentioned, ever, for any reason, and hope that she is good for her word. If she is not and end up telling, then you must be prepared to explain that you were torn between whether to tell him or not and decided that sparing his feelings toward both of you was the kinder thing to do. Actions create ripples like tossing a stone into a pond... the indiscretion is a pebble relative to telling all, which would like casting a boulder after the pebble.

[nofool4u]

Whatever man! Don't hurt your head thinking about this BS, just rock on and be 16. I wasted my teens thinking about stuff. Don't tell your friend; if you get to do more with the girl, why not?

 

And what's wrong with being in a bar at 16? He's 16, not six.

 

Really?

 

Well then, with any luck maybe someday his friend will bang his gf and he can just suck it up if he finds out.

[Bumaga vsyo sterpit]

Really?

 

Well then, with any luck maybe someday his friend will bang his gf and he can just suck it up if he finds out.

 

Such stuff is bound to happen sooner or later no matter what you do.

 

Let him **** around a little... His love life shouldn't be ethical discourse.

[nofool4u]

Such stuff is bound to happen sooner or later no matter what you do.

 

Let him **** around a little... His love life shouldn't be ethical discourse.

 

Sure, let him **** around, he just needn't be surprised when he finds himself with a broken nose. Not condoning that or saying thats what I'd do. But one day if this advise of yours is taken, he'll mess with the wrong "friend's" gf, and he'll get his ass handed to him.

 

Sure despicable things like this are "bound" to happen, but don't call someone your friend if you bed their partner.