what's the best decision for this issue?

[madbloominghime]

we just talked and he told me that his officemate was been able to trap him which is a very shocking news. Someone told him that I should leave this guy already but he sent me this email:

 

"Sorry, I shutdown skype while you were testing me.

I do love you but I have done something wrong.

I don't deserve to be with you because you have been so nice with me and I broke the "contract" we had together.

I feel very bad now, and it is affecting me in my work.

I hope we can talk on cam, not by mail.

I am confuse and need some time.

F"

 

I said:

 

"honestly as soon as I know what's happening I told myself that she did it with you. People told me that I should ditch you already because they believe that a cheater is always a cheater. But I told myself that I should not be swayed by my emotions so that I can have a rational mind over this matter. So I'm saying this not because I already forgot what you did. it's clear as a running water but nothing would came good out of it if I will just let my emotions control me.

 

if you were saying is true it's good that you admit that you are wrong and I'm glad you were honest about it.

 

Since this is happening right now all I can do and decide as a rational being is to not decide for now and allow you to prove yourself to me. You just need to prove that you really have a remorse on what you did last week. That's all I ask.

 

in the case of you don't deserve to be with me, all I can say is that everybody deserves a second chance..If God forgive us humans why can't I but unlike God who just forgive and forget like what I've said you need to prove that you are worthy of a second chance. I am willing to give you a second chance if you will be able to prove to me that you are worthy enough..if it means of courting me again to win back my trust then do so..

 

you have proven your love for me before so I know you will again this time.

 

and one more thing, be sure that if second chance will be given to u don't waste that second chance so better straight ur priorities up and if it means to be rude to any girl trying to put u in a trap again then do so..

 

God Bless and Good Luck with my challenge."

 

Am I doing the right decision??

[Chi townD]

no...

 

Who the hell says betraying the relationship you have together is breaking the "contract you have together". REally?!? Like he screwed up a business deal. "opps!! Sorry!! I messed up!"

 

Sorry, but this guy isn't remorseful about what he did. He's dancing the jig that he got away with it.

 

Girl, I think that your worth to have a guy that wouldn't even consider cheating on you. Look, you want to forgive. Fine, you can forgive him as a person, but as a boyfriend, he crossed the line.

[madbloominghime]

okay, thanks but do you think I have the right to know the reason behind why he cheated on me in the first place?

[road]

okay, thanks but do you think I have the right to know the reason behind why he cheated on me in the first place?

 

 

The only why answer is that he had poor boundaries wirh women.