why asian girls?

[asian girl]

Hello, people I am a asian female who has been studying in the states for

 

a couple of years. I'd like to hear your opinions. It's common among my

 

friends who have come from my country that we have to be carefull of

 

american guys who desire asian females . Those american guys are jerks

 

or not so attractive so that they can not go out with american females.

 

Therefore, they try to access to asain females. Some people say that

 

those guys might have a bad experience in the past with american

 

females. Maybe it's true. But whenever I am asked to go out by guys who

 

prefer to asian girls, I have sort of hesitation. I'd like to go out with

 

somebody who does not care about my race or natoinarity. Do you think I

 

am too sensitive ???

[Tony T]

No, you aren't being too sensitive. But you need to look at things in a much broader perspective.

 

If a guy tells you he wants to go out with you because you are Asian, he is not worth going out with. As a matter of fact, he is pretty stupid.

 

For some men to stereotype Asian women as passive and submissive is just as bad as them sterotyping American women as being selfish and bitchy. There are millions of exceptions to both.

 

Initial attraction is usually based on physical attributes and perhaps some American men find some Asian women to be very attractive. There are also some American men who find Asian women to be extremely nice and accomodating and the kind of women they would like to marry.

 

There are many American men who would not see an Asian woman because they feel they are of such a different race and culture, they would fear (out of ignorance) there would be insurmountable differences.

 

You ought to not be so concerned about this issue and go out with whomever you feel good about. If after seeing them a few times and hearing them discuss issues with you there is a feeling that they are jerks or undesireable, stop seeing them.

 

I know first hand being very good friends with Asian women that many of them are very very nice but some of them I would not give the time of day to...just like American women, no difference. There is one, her parents are from Thailand, and she is exceptionally obnoxious.

 

There is also a possibility, scientifically speaking, that the attraction between Asians and other nationalities...particularly American...may be some sort of evolutionary imperative. In my experiences of observing the offspring of Asian/American couples, for instance, I have found them to be extremely attractive, intelligent, and behaviorally at bit more rational than normal (this is just a general observation, there are exceptions).

 

Amerasian women, in my own personal opinion, are among the most beautiful in the world. I just wanted to drop this thought to give you a unique perspective. Nature and biology works in very strange ways of which we are sometimes unaware. So maybe without knowing it, nature is driving these men to produce exceptionally attractive or intelligent offspring. This is not to say that unions between two Americans are incapable of this. America is a melting pot of mixed nationalities.

 

I don't think you can make overall judgements about American men, Asian women or any other people. Each person is unique.

 

But I can tell you one thing for sure, I would marry you in a heartbeat, not because you are Asian, but because you took the time to double-space your post and make it so easy to read. You are exceptionally considerate, since there are some people who write stuff here who ramble on for days, single spaced, with no separation for paragraphs.

 

Anybody who writes as nice as you deserves someone special...and no, I am not flirting!!!

[Deejette]

It is unfortunate that Asian women have gotten the stereotype of being submissive, unselfish little flowers. Some men, who fear independent, strong women seek what they think they will find in an Asian woman, someone who does not argue with them and goes along with their program.

 

I agree, if a man designates that he only wants Asian women, there is a problem, because he is looking at his ideal of what that race is and not the individual person. He has seen too many movies like the Flower Drum Song, Shogun, and Teahouse of the August Moon. Movies like this portray these delicate, soft, childlike, angelic women that are a sharp contrast to the nervy American dames.

No, you aren't being too sensitive. But you need to look at things in a much broader perspective.

 

If a guy tells you he wants to go out with you because you are Asian, he is not worth going out with. As a matter of fact, he is pretty stupid.

 

For some men to stereotype Asian women as passive and submissive is just as bad as them sterotyping American women as being selfish and bitchy. There are millions of exceptions to both.

 

Initial attraction is usually based on physical attributes and perhaps some American men find some Asian women to be very attractive. There are also some American men who find Asian women to be extremely nice and accomodating and the kind of women they would like to marry. There are many American men who would not see an Asian woman because they feel they are of such a different race and culture, they would fear (out of ignorance) there would be insurmountable differences. You ought to not be so concerned about this issue and go out with whomever you feel good about. If after seeing them a few times and hearing them discuss issues with you there is a feeling that they are jerks or undesireable, stop seeing them.

 

I know first hand being very good friends with Asian women that many of them are very very nice but some of them I would not give the time of day to...just like American women, no difference. There is one, her parents are from Thailand, and she is exceptionally obnoxious. There is also a possibility, scientifically speaking, that the attraction between Asians and other nationalities...particularly American...may be some sort of evolutionary imperative. In my experiences of observing the offspring of Asian/American couples, for instance, I have found them to be extremely attractive, intelligent, and behaviorally at bit more rational than normal (this is just a general observation, there are exceptions).

 

Amerasian women, in my own personal opinion, are among the most beautiful in the world. I just wanted to drop this thought to give you a unique perspective. Nature and biology works in very strange ways of which we are sometimes unaware. So maybe without knowing it, nature is driving these men to produce exceptionally attractive or intelligent offspring. This is not to say that unions between two Americans are incapable of this. America is a melting pot of mixed nationalities.

 

I don't think you can make overall judgements about American men, Asian women or any other people. Each person is unique. But I can tell you one thing for sure, I would marry you in a heartbeat, not because you are Asian, but because you took the time to double-space your post and make it so easy to read. You are exceptionally considerate, since there are some people who write stuff here who ramble on for days, single spaced, with no separation for paragraphs.

 

Anybody who writes as nice as you deserves someone special...and no, I am not flirting!!!

 

[apple of sodom]

There is a definite "Asian girl fetish" among some men. It goes along with a fetish for redheads, blondes, tall women, s&m, etc. They fetishes are all equally ridiculous to me, but to each his own. Perhaps some men just think they're getting something exotic when dating a woman from a foreign country. Some men see Asian women as being more docile and subservient than the average American woman.

 

I wouldn't generalize that most American men prefer Asian women for the reasons mentioned. It's really not fair to generalize. You can decide for yourself between genuine interest and merely liking you for your appearance or ethnicity.

 

It's easy to tell if a guy is just asking you out because of the way you look. I'm sure you can determine that and weed out the chaff accordingly. Don't rule out the good guys because of this anxiety.

 

Hello, people I am a asian female who has been studying in the states for a couple of years. I'd like to hear your opinions. It's common among my friends who have come from my country that we have to be carefull of american guys who desire asian females . Those american guys are jerks or not so attractive so that they can not go out with american females. Therefore, they try to access to asain females. Some people say that those guys might have a bad experience in the past with american females. Maybe it's true. But whenever I am asked to go out by guys who prefer to asian girls, I have sort of hesitation. I'd like to go out with somebody who does not care about my race or natoinarity. Do you think I am too sensitive ???