spaniard Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 i can assure you, im not in any cycle. she gave mixed messages. changed her number because i fell into desperation. texting her all the time. yadda yadda Ok, then do me one favour. Go to her house and confront personally AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Tell her what you want, ask her what she wants. Maybe if she tells you that it's over, you will believe it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author frederickkk Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 not doing that, because that is a physical boundary i am not willing to cross. Link to post Share on other sites
spaniard Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 not doing that, because that is a physical boundary i am not willing to cross. Do it. Grow some balls. Do it. Or are you afraid of what she would say? Link to post Share on other sites
Author frederickkk Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 Do it. Grow some balls. Do it. Or are you afraid of what she would say? not afraid of the outcome, more turning up at her house if anything Link to post Share on other sites
Renard99 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 not doing that, because that is a physical boundary i am not willing to cross. Then what kind of fighter are you? You claim you'll do anything to get this girl back, yet you won't actually go up to her and outright ask? By continuing to hide behind the emails you send you are actually coming across more as a coward than a fighter. Something she's also probably picking up on. You're afraid to create a situation where she could say a definite 'no' in order to live in a world where there is still a chance. You don't want to even entertain the possibilty that there is no hope, so are, therefore, artificially creating it. Please please please seek help 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spaniard Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 Mate, if you know she doesn't want you at her house.. Why would she want you in her email? you can't keep pushing her though, you will end up in trouble. He needs to end up in trouble. He has been in a sort of denial/illusion for about 5 months. Still on square 1 ever since the break up. He needs two things: first his ex to tell him it's over for good, then some professional help. Link to post Share on other sites
Sav Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 Mate, if you know she doesn't want you at her house.. Why would she want you in her email? you've gotta think about this before you get yourself arrested. You're making a stupid.fool of yourself. embarrasing yourself. You're not in trouble with the police because clearly she's a good person and doesn't want to wreck your life, have you labelled as a stalker. you can't keep pushing her though, you will end up in trouble. Btw the police was called once already Link to post Share on other sites
spaniard Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 Btw the police was called once already Oh, well. That's a mixed message, didn't you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Author frederickkk Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 Oh, well. That's a mixed message, didn't you know? they were called, she laughed about it over coffee, couldve gone back,but she didnt, changed her number instead. Link to post Share on other sites
AlexDP Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 He needs to end up in trouble. He has been in a sort of denial/illusion for about 5 months. Still on square 1 ever since the break up. He needs two things: first his ex to tell him it's over for good, then some professional help. The problem is that he has no self esteem already. If they arrest him for stalking his ex girlfriend, what is left of him will be shattered to pieces. He needs to snap out of it, but I'm not sure if this is the way to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Mcnulty Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 All these posts/replies/advice...rhetorical question here...why post when you dont seek advice?...Tell you why, he's loving the attention he's getting, narcissistic attitude, it replaces the attention he's not getting from his ex. Why not post a journal or coping diary instead, then when he gets her back, he can show her it and say, this is what i was going through. Deluded narcissism is the ugliest human trait. Link to post Share on other sites
Sav Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 actually i love him. Whenever I think of how useless or worthless I am, I come and look at his post and realize damn..I'm FAAAAAR ahead. Gets me going on every single time Link to post Share on other sites
Author frederickkk Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 im telling her what im going through through these emails. not the pain the hurt the loss....just the wtf at the whole situation? if this girl loves me, she will be back. Link to post Share on other sites
winstonsdreams Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 There you go Freddy, stupid.fool is now telling you from experience exactly where you are going to end up. Look how much he has learnt on his mistakes do you want to end up like that?! NO! He is telling you the outcome, you DON'T win her back and you end up with a record, just great! At least he has learnt his lesson! People have been so helpful on here to you, and you aren't even listening, even stupid.fool who was in your EXACT position has spelled it out for you. Dude go NC and move on! Don't you dare go try see her and get arrested man, don't scare the s*** out of her she does not deserve that, let her be happy and move on. Dude you are going to end up behind bars, don't be a moron! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spaniard Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 There you go Freddy, stupid.fool is now telling you from experience exactly where you are going to end up. Look how much he has learnt on his mistakes do you want to end up like that?! NO! He is telling you the outcome, you DON'T win her back and you end up with a record, just great! You know what's funny? That in one or two years from now frederickkk will be lookin back at this whole story, probably being with another girl or, heaven forbid, boy and he will be thinking "what an idiot I was two years ago". Five years ago I did something similar (although only for a month, and I wasn't so creepy). Link to post Share on other sites
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