Rosiecat Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 OK, here's my story, sad but true. Still single at 43, I found this nifty guy whose estranged wife is a crackhead. He's started filing for divorce, apparently there's a process where the divorce can go thru even if they can't find her. But she's been spotted at the local welfare office, so you'd think they could track her down. Anyway, I'm a proud owner of a nice mobile home and money etc... do you think I'm taking a risk if I move in now? Aren't the welfare people going to include my assets when the divorce goes thru? I guess it's silly of me to jump in, but there's the matter of the 12 year old daughter who could benefit from my presence (not to mention that I get horribly depressed in the winter and could benefit from some company myself). And the three of us have been having a lot of fun, and to be honest, I'm not really keen on taking care of this place all by myself. I figure, if it doesn't work out I'll just find another place later. But the division of assets haunts me. I'm also terrified she's going to show up some day all cracked-out and scare me to death. And also, he has reasons to hate her guts (ie., she kited his accounts and destroyed their home before running off to become somewhat of a prostitute) and he might fly off his handle if she shows up as well. So what's more important, spending time with the guy I'm nuts about and saving money etc. OR keeping my stuff safe at the risk of losing him???? Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 There is no possible way that your assets could get mixed up in his divorce. As for the other things you mentioned its something you will have to live with. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rosiecat Posted August 12, 2004 Author Share Posted August 12, 2004 thanks for the reply! I guess I'm just paranoid cuz I spent 8 years with a diff guy who wouldn't tie the knot because his exwife might come after us for more child support (which she spent primarily on herself). I finally left him. At least this time I get to share in the final raising of the child. I don't have a problem with spending money if it goes to the right places! I've been fixing up his place (bought the supplies and painted/re-did the kitchen) and taking the girl clothes shopping for school. I guess welfare will want the exwife to get half the value of their home, which she will just smoke up. The guy I used to live with had a restoration business with his wife. She left him for a guy they hired on as help. She got to keep the whole business when they split, an agreement between the two of them. She sunk the business, and when she went on welfare, they came after my guy for more child support. My present boyfriend wants to marry me, which is so refreshing after living with the other noncommittal guy for so long. I guess all these years of being treated like a live-in cleaning lady have taken their tole on me, cuz it's hard to trust anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
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