verysad Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 My problem is that I cannot accept that I was rejected. It has almost been 6 months since we broke up, and I have come to terms with our breakup. We dated for 3 1/2 years, were going to be engaged within a few weeks, he had a deposit down on a ring....I was completely devestated when we broke up. But after some time and a lot of soul searching and going out with my friends, I started to come to accept the fact that we were not getting back together and that I was single again. Most days I'm strong. It's really the life we planned together that I will really miss and get upset about if I start thinking about it. However, today is one of those days when I am really dwelling on what happened and why it happened and I get so mad. I HATE THE FACT THAT I WAS REJECTED!!! I did not deserve this at all. We had such a good relationship....the way it happened, it makes me literally sick to my stomach if I think about it. I really feel that it has done a number on my self-esteem. I know I have to get over the fact that he did this to me and that he rejected me and that I hate the way he did it.....but how? Link to post Share on other sites
aFighter Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 I think we've all been on a recieving end of an 'It's over' at some point. Why did he break it off? Link to post Share on other sites
carolina Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I'm in the same situation as you!! I had set a "deadline" with my boyfriend of 6 years.........well, that deadline came and went & no ring. Rejection!! And like you, it's been 6 months and I still have trouble getting over it. I guess he figured he'd be better off single then with me, it " just didn't feel right...." . Glad it took him so many years to figure it out! I'm like if it was so bad why did you stick around for six years!! Anyway, I'm like you. I get so mad some days. I'm like IF anyone should be doing the rejection, it SHOULD HAVE been me b/c I gave so much more than I got. But I was always okay with that b/c I loved him. I'm like what's he unhappy about ? I loved and cared about him UNCONDITIONALLY--a lot more than he did for me. My reward ? I too got dumped. SLOWLY my days are getting better but it's really tough. It kinda helps to see someone going thru something so similar. Link to post Share on other sites
ojibwaywmn Posted August 17, 2004 Share Posted August 17, 2004 I know what you are going through. Even though we broke up over a year ago, I still find myself being angry, sad, lonely, etc. I broke it off because I found out that he was sneaking behind my back. He didn't have the courage to tell me that he was trying to reconcile with his ex. It hurt me deeply and now I am taking time out to learn about myself...and to heal. There are times when I don't know who I am most angry with....him or me. But I have been seeing a counsellor and reading everything on relationships, healing, starting over...you name it. I think I am hitting the last stretch of the phase. So there is hope.... Link to post Share on other sites
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