Ex saw me and she flipped out

[yuppup]

So I've been doing better. NC for awhile now. I've actually lost track of how long it's been.

 

This past weekend I heard from my ex. She was contacting me repeatedly to ask for closure and kept saying she loved me. The story of our breakup is that she left me after 3 years. We had a toxic relationship and she dumped me when my dog died. She then entered a new relationship a month after the BU.

 

Anyways, she kept asking for closure and saying she loved me. I told her closure isn't something I can give her, it's something people come to terms with on their own. Then I said that we just can't talk right now for awhile and maybe in time we can be friends, wished her well and said goodbye.

 

Later that night a friend of ours took me out for a beer because I just got a scary diagnosis and she wanted to cheer me up. I've known this friend longer than she's known my ex, but my ex found out we were hanging out and came to the bar we were at. As soon as she went inside to get a drink and meet with other friends, we left.

 

By the time we got back to my friend's house (minutes later), the ex was texting both of us, telling the friend off and telling me she loved me. This went on for 4 hours, well into the early morning. She kept asking to speak to me, and kept calling my phone. I refused cuz I figured she was just drunk. After awhile I got VERY upset with what she was saying, how I was a crappy lover, then how I have "all of her heart", how her new GF knows that she still loves me, that she can't believe how immature I am. (What?) Our friend got mad because I started crying and decided to contact my ex's new GF to let her know what was up. I asked her not to, but I guess that's what needed to be done. My ex was harassing me and saying she loved me, so I guess the new girl should know this stuff.

 

I finally gave in and let her talk to me online briefly as she kept saying she had something to tell me that she didn't have the courage to say when she left me. All she had to say was, "I just wasn't in love with you anymore!" Well, duh. That's usually why people breakup and I had already figured that out by now. But then she kept saying "I love you" and how I have all of her heart and she can't handle any of this and bla bla bla. Then she started diving into our many relationship problems and that's where I ended the conversation. I told her "none of this matters anymore. I care about you too, but our problems don't matter. They ended when we ended and it's in the past." I then wished her well, but told her not to contact me anymore cuz I can't handle the stress since my health is shot.

 

Since then, I have had many mutual friends who weren't too familiar with this situation coming to me and telling me she still loves me and that she's breaking down.

 

Why? Can anyone give me insight as to what's going on with her? She left me and I was perfectly happy with the silence between us because I was healing and moving on. That and I have other fish to fry with my health concerns. I may even be facing brain surgery by the end of December. Now I'm hearing that she's been crying for months. She also admitted that she looks at our pictures everyday and cries. I feel sorry for her new GF, really. She knew nothing about my health issues up until I spoke with her as I've only told a few people. So that couldn't have provoked her meltdown.

 

EDIT: I do wanna add, the look on my ex's face when she saw me was priceless. I was about to go to the bar in sweats and a hoodie, but I had a feeling I should at least shower and put makeup on. Later she told me I looked absolutely beautiful and she couldn't believe it when she saw me, that she had forgotten my beauty for awhile there. What a nutjob to say that while saying "I'm not in love with you", then saying "you have my whole heart." I really don't understand such merciless behavior. She broke my heart, and then had to throw that crap at me.

Edited December 11, 2012 by yuppup