philthebill Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 :)Hello too all Going to try and keep this as short as possible! I broke up with my girlfriend around 4 and a half months ago. (Something i really did not want to do) but done it on a weak whim. For these reasons that happened all in space of a week. Was a long distance relationship that lasted a year and 4 months. Am not sure if i made the right choice and jumped the gun !! She was getting friendly witht his guy from work, and any time she would talk about him, she wud put him down! She said if you seen him you would not be worried! Any ways here it goes! 1. girlfriend was going to work early 2. girlfriend went out to a staff party, no contact for the night. 3. Girl friend goes to beach with male co worker, a day later. 4. For the rest of the week she was meeting up with friends and staying over with them, going for dinner etc once again no contact for most of the week. 5. Working late, when she never had done before 6. She was geting lifts home of this guy a "friend" from work for a while before all this also. 7. Very little contact for the whole week, which lead me to think somthing was up! (Any time we both went out we wud always kept contact) So after the break up, she was spending more and more time with this chap from work, Putting pictures up on facebook of him, putting pictures up on instagram of different places she had been, with him. In this time frame i was trying to explain to her why i broke up because i felt something was going on between the two of them! Of course i was stressed out seeing all of these things and deleted her off facebook ! I posted all her things down to her, and i asked her if i could have my laptop back. She told me "this is the only item i have left of you" Its a mac book pro and cost me 2,500 Euros ! A month ago i asked her to post it down, making sure i was being polite ! I sent her lots of texts that day and called her loads to get it back! She then told me she would post it! At this stage she was still "Friends" with this guy. He rung me up an hour later telling me if I call her again he would rip my mouth from my face! I like my mouth for i need it for talking, most important! I got my laptop anyways! Any time i rung her or texted her she was just mean and angry all the time and so effective communitcation was not happening ! So i decided to just leave her be which was hard, but i was getting on grand untill!! So two weeks ago she calls me up at one in the morning! Sobbing crying, told me she was confused and is not herself! She changed her whole appearance And really really misses me and still loves me. She told me she was seeing this guy but its hard cause she still really loves me ! Of course i was worried about her! We were talking for most of that week! She was telling me how good i looked etc etc. I told her if she wants to meet up am willing, she told me she wants to but would not be fair on this new chap! She told me they where more friends than antyhing else !! Which is very confusing for me ! All i wanted to do was to see her face to face and see if there was anything still there and have fun! I was confused to why she contacted me after so long in the frist place? I then told her that I cant be talking to you if i still have feelings for her, and if she is seeing someone else, its just not fair ! So i told her if she wants to meet up some time give me a call but i won’t be talking to her when she is seeing this guy! She calls me up a 2 days later to say she found some clothes of mine! I told her she can do what she wants with them. I asked her what’s is going on with her and this chap. She tells me, He’s the most genuine guy she has ever met, He goes out of his way for her, and when i broke up he was there for support haha She told me there was not flirting going on before and she never done anything behind my back! She told me they both share the same values and morals lol But not the same interests, this lads a boy racer type. She’s likes art, photography music and travelling! She also keeps bring up fights we had in the past and sorted out in the past! I have not contacted her in a while! And i suppose am not sure if i made the right choice. Yes i still love her, yes i wish things did not end the way they did! I am also on instagram, she has me blocked from seeing her page, but last week she tagged a picture of me, it came up in my news feeds, and me like a idoit sent her a text to see what the meaning of this was. I sent her about 7 texts in all over 2 days, she responed to 3 of them! The next day after i sent the last text, i get a call at half an hour later....it was the police or Garda in ireland! Am not sure why she done this, he said she was pretty up set. The texts i had been sending her where not abusive or threating or pleding or begging! I asked her would she want to meet up some time soon! I was really pissed off at this and of course have now backed way way way AWAY, But i still miss her! Just looking for other peoples perspective. This guy knew what he was up to ! And pretty much got her when she was at her weakest ! If you have got this far i thank you Link to post Share on other sites
drifter777 Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 Every guy feels like this after breaking up with a girl he really cared about. It's normal, but if you are honest with yourself you will see that you are blowing your relationship with her out of proportion. It wasn't all wonderful, it wasn't all lovey-dovey. There was a lot of things wrong and that's why you ended it. Do I think she was cheating? Yes, but just the suspicion is enough for you to end things with her. Who needs that kind of drama when there are plenty of other girls out there? Be young, be free, be happy. Get back into the dating game and enjoy yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 12, 2012 Share Posted December 12, 2012 "I then told her that I cant be talking to you if i still have feelings for her, and if she is seeing someone else, its just not fair ! So i told her if she wants to meet up some time give me a call but i won’t be talking to her when she is seeing this guy! She calls me up a 2 days later to say she found some clothes of mine! I told her she can do what she wants with them. I asked her what’s is going on with her and this chap. She tells me, He’s the most genuine guy she has ever met, He goes out of his way for her, and when i broke up he was there for support haha She told me there was not flirting going on before and she never done anything behind my back! She told me they both share the same values and morals lol But not the same interests, this lads a boy racer type. She’s likes art, photography music and travelling! She also keeps bring up fights we had in the past and sorted out in the past!" Social Astroglide.. The answer to your question, IMO, is yes. Welcome to LS Link to post Share on other sites
aed Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 (edited) Does it matter at this point? She replaced you in an instant, that should be enough to walk away forever! edit: i overlooked the police part. Now i know for sure: Run, Run and dont ever reply to her again. Edited December 13, 2012 by aed Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 I'm sure she was. Emotional cheating at the very least. This is what happens when your girlfriend makes a new "friend." Be glad you dumped her. Link to post Share on other sites
GLDheart Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Yep... but what does it matter besides in the context of reconciliation? Link to post Share on other sites
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