tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 This is my pet peeve about him. He tells me last night, I will call you tomorrow, but never does. Most likely he will call me tomorrow. Then I get so pi##ed, I stop speaking to him. I told him last week, don't say you're going to do something, then not follow through. It annoys me. He always texts, answers my texts, ect. It's saying he's going to call, then doesn't. The fact of being ld, I would appreciate him being consistent.That alone makes me want to drop him. Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 I don't really know the specifics of your relationship but does he like talking on the phone? or is he doing it because he feels he has too? I ask this because for example in my relationship both my girlfriend and I are pretty horrible at talking on the phone we get all very uncomfortable (we just don't like talking on phones for very long). Of course we still talk on the phone/skype (usually just so we can hear each others voice more than the conversation) but usually it is quite short or it becomes awkward. We prefer texting or typing on skype with cameras on when we can as our primary communication as it is a comfortable medium for us both. So I don't know if it's something you have discussed with him or not. Though I do agree it must be frustrating him saying that and then not following through. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 I hear ya. I guess men are not good at making promises in general... few are. Also, they have a different priority range & ranking. The irony is in most cases they don't do it on purpose, they're just careless. It annoys me because then I start thinking: if he didn't call, he's not looking forward to it, or not looking forward to hearing from me... and why is that so? That must mean his feelings are mild, or he can go without me and be fine with it... It's a science fact that male brains are wired differently (usually)... Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 He does it because he feels he has to. Neither one of us are phone people, we prefer to text. That's fine, but don't say you're going to do something, then not do it. I told him this, I said instead say, I will try to call. Then I wind ignoring him for a couple of days. I guess I fall under passive aggressive, trying to get my point across. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 So let me make sure I'm understanding..... He says he will call and doesn't but he is still reachable via text. In other words he's not disappearing, right? If that's the case, I can see how it would be annoying. Especially in an LDR. You have to get your point across somehow, being passive aggressive isn't the best way. Definitely have a serious talk with him about do what you say and say what you mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 That is a bit odd but yes I don't think it is malicious... I'm guilty of doing this (rarely) I really try to but sometimes it just slips my mind. Generally since my partner and I aren't phone people we don't schedule phone conversations so much. We sort of just randomly call each other when we know it will be good for either of us and it's sort of a surprise. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 I can always reach him through text. Now I'll wind up ignoring him and wont answer his texts because I get so annoyed. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 It's not malicious, I think he just honestly forgets. Especially right now with work he's trying to finish up projects to prepare for his surgery. Still don't say you're going to do something if you know you forget. Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 He probably doesn't know he's going to forget, he just does. But yes that is very annoying, the only time I can remember where I did that was on a day a friend had a car crash so... I was a little preoccupied. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 he just text me, can't ignore him, although i would like to. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 He said he called me twice, but his number never showed up in my phone. So now he wont talk to me. I told him I'm sorry. Unless it was private or restricted, I wont answer the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 We made up, and he admitted he misses me, and called me sweet heart. Link to post Share on other sites
Carenth Posted December 13, 2012 Share Posted December 13, 2012 So he didn't forget? you just didn't answer.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author tori0001 Posted December 13, 2012 Author Share Posted December 13, 2012 Yup, but my phone never showed his number. I got 2 private calls about 4, most likely it was him. If I don't reconize a number, I wont answer the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
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