AZNNTYCE Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 ok my gf just called me up and we had a big arguement. this is how it started. she asked how my day was and i explained to her my day at work and general stuff like that, during half of my story she says "i dont want to hear anymore, ur day was boring" then she starts explaining how her day was... i was so angry i said it back to her. then everything started from there. i know i started it, but was it necessary? i dont think it is... cause she said she didnt care about my day after asking me, and expected me to listen to her. help tell me what you think of this situation Link to post Share on other sites
Firegirl04 Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 Do you really wanna know what I think of her? If she didn't care about how your day went she shouldn't have asked. Granted saying the same thing to her wasn't right, but she did deserve it. Does she do that all the time? Link to post Share on other sites
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 It does not seem as if you started anything. I think your gf is a little selfish and if she would really care about you she would want to hear how your day went whether it was boring or not, unless you're the type of person that drags out a small story into a marathon. Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted August 12, 2004 Share Posted August 12, 2004 Even still.. if she cared about you and was really into you you could tell her the story of how you sat in the yard and watched the grass grow and she should be all ears. I don't thin you shouldve said it back but I do think you should tell her that it really hurt what she said. Tell her not to ask if shes not even going to listen. (and then when she starts talking put your hands over your ears and walk away) JK! Link to post Share on other sites
Author AZNNTYCE Posted August 13, 2004 Author Share Posted August 13, 2004 she does it once in a while, and last night it just really got to me and i had to say it back to her... i know i shouldnt of done it, but i needed to say it to her so she understood how i felt when she said it to me. i know when i said it to her she was really p*^sed off. i agree with " Firegirl04" if she didint care she shouldnt of asked. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 : She didn''t say your life was boring. When people ask you, 'how was your day?', more often than not they don't actually want to hear an answer. At least she's honest, I would much rather hear something like that than have someone who suffered through my conversations on a daily basis. I don't think you're really hurt. I don't think your feelings are hurt. I think it caught you off-gaurd, and instead of rolling with it, you chose to behave like a small child about it. You ought to move on. Pick and choose your battles. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 When people ask you, 'how was your day?', more often than not they don't actually want to hear an answer. This is true. Usually all you're obligated to say is "good", or "it was okay". After that, well, most people (myself included) stop listening. Unless something tragic happened or whatever. I suppose if you didn't have anything else to talk about they might ask you to go into detail about every little thing you did. I can't recall something like this ever happening with any of my boyfriends, but I know that plenty of my friends will interrupt with an "Ah, that sounds dull" and change the subject. My close friends, well, it's a "Shut up already" kind of thing. But it's always lighthearted, and I've never taken it to mean that they didn't care about me. This really wasn't worth fighting over and I'm sure the two of you will get over it soon. Cheers. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
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