Have you ever fantasized about being with your wife when both of you were younger?

[Clockwork]

Okay maybe it sounds weird. My wife and I first met when she was 22. She is now 28. Still vibrant and sexy as ever and can still easily pass for 22, even after having our son. She can look downright stunning in a bikini. Needless to say, I think she is very sexy and I am 4 years older than her.

 

There have been times when I have seen some older pictures of her before we met and I've gotten aroused. I've thought of them at times we have sex. I guess in a way I would have loved to have been with her at these times (don't worry I am talking about a high school girl with me being age appropriate as well).

 

She looked so beautiful on her prom night. I didn't know her then of course. The guy she was with more or less took off on her that night with his friends. She was so pretty, and a virgin to boot. I couldn't understand how that guy wouldn't have wanted to be with her that night. There are times when I've fantasized about approaching her on her prom night and sweeping her off my feet. I've wondered how she would have kissed then and if she would have found me attractive then too. I have actually had my wife wear her prom dress a couple of times and it has really turned me on.

 

So is this unusual? Does anyone else fantasize about taking your wife's/husband's virginity at a certain time in their life? By the way my sex life is excellent and I can't complain at all but sometimes I pretend she's on her prom night and I am the guy who gets to be with her.

 

Okay, flame away.

[todreaminblue]

Okay maybe it sounds weird. My wife and I first met when she was 22. She is now 28. Still vibrant and sexy as ever and can still easily pass for 22, even after having our son. She can look downright stunning in a bikini. Needless to say, I think she is very sexy and I am 4 years older than her.

 

There have been times when I have seen some older pictures of her before we met and I've gotten aroused. I've thought of them at times we have sex. I guess in a way I would have loved to have been with her at these times (don't worry I am talking about a high school girl with me being age appropriate as well).

 

She looked so beautiful on her prom night. I didn't know her then of course. The guy she was with more or less took off on her that night with his friends. She was so pretty, and a virgin to boot. I couldn't understand how that guy wouldn't have wanted to be with her that night. There are times when I've fantasized about approaching her on her prom night and sweeping her off my feet. I've wondered how she would have kissed then and if she would have found me attractive then too. I have actually had my wife wear her prom dress a couple of times and it has really turned me on.

 

So is this unusual? Does anyone else fantasize about taking your wife's/husband's virginity at a certain time in their life? By the way my sex life is excellent and I can't complain at all but sometimes I pretend she's on her prom night and I am the guy who gets to be with her.

 

Okay, flame away.

 

I second just a poster it is touching....i wish i would have met a certain group of people and one certain person when i was younger not so much them i would want them the way they are now........i would have hung with them and not the people i did....i would have rocked one persons world for sure...;0)...i dont mean with sex......i just his world....we woudl have had fun lol....he is a bit for a kamkaze....and for me .....i could have kamikazed all i want he would have been there laughing with me...my life would have been pretty sweet i feel....but thats hindsight for you .....i leave it to my daydreams.......and i accept everythign happens for a reason..and i am not over being a kamikaze.....ill still have fun....and i have been...its been enlightening an drefreshing this is my new lease on life........deb

[LittleTiger]

My guy and I talk about this sometimes. We met 3 years ago, both in our 40s, but we do think about what it would have been like to have met when we were young.

 

We're both looked after ourselves and we're still in great shape but we also find the younger versions of ourselves (in photos) very attractive. That said we find the older versions equally hot!

 

You're not harming anyone with these fantasies so just share with each other and enjoy!

[Ninja'sHusband]

Ask me again if I ever remarry ^^ That will be pretty weird actually. I'm 38 now, it could be a while before anything happens again for me.

 

My recent ex and I started dating when I was 19 and she was 20.

 

:bunny:ing in the dorms I remember coming out of her room one time, and maybe I sighed or something because I remember a guy(whom I didn't know) asking me, "Too much pussy for you?" lol

 

I imagine if I find someone new I'll wonder "what if" if I see old pics.

[LoveMyWifey]

You are not weird at all. I have wished this alot of times. Both my wife and I wanted a great lasting relationship since we were young and we didn't meet until she was 24 and I was 25 which seems young looking back.

 

But when I see pictures of her in a later teens and early 20's I would give anything to be able to go back to then and sweep her off her feet. She is every bit as beautiful now as she has been ever, in fact, with every year we are together she becomes even more beautiful and I love her even more. There is just something so special about spending those younger years together and growing in love at such an innocent time.

 

You are a true Gentleman NinjasHusband and I salute you.

Edited December 14, 2012 by LoveMyWifey

[Ninja'sHusband]

You are not weird at all. I have wished this alot of times. Both my wife and I wanted a great lasting relationship since we were young and we didn't meet until she was 24 and I was 25 which seems young looking back.

 

But when I see pictures of her in a later teens and early 20's I would give anything to be able to go back to then and sweep her off her feet. She is every bit as beautiful now as she has been ever, in fact, with every year we are together she becomes even more beautiful and I love her even more. There is just something so special about spending those younger years together and growing in love at such an innocent time.

 

You are a true Gentleman NinjasHusband and I salute you.

 

Lol, is that sarcasm?

[LoveMyWifey]

Lol' date=' is that sarcasm?[/quote']

 

No, my appologies, I meant to say Clockwork but I am unable to edit the post, it says I need to contact a moderator.

[todreaminblue]

My guy and I talk about this sometimes. We met 3 years ago, both in our 40s, but we do think about what it would have been like to have met when we were young.

 

We're both looked after ourselves and we're still in great shape but we also find the younger versions of ourselves (in photos) very attractive. That said we find the older versions equally hot!

 

You're not harming anyone with these fantasies so just share with each other and enjoy!

 

 

 

just posted about having no regrets just found one reading your post....i have systematically over the years destroyed all photos of me....i was trying to get rid of reminders of me......i dont even remember what i looked like my mum has baby photos and photos of me as a child......i have a photo of me as a teen well mum does she doesnt let me keep photos......i had my face in a flower......smelling it.....i remember i had dancers legs they were long for a shortie.....i have a pci taken from a friend recently its going to be a before weight loss....after weight loss shot...i am not a fan of photos......because of this fact ...i have regrets...i should have kept some....i delete alot...including photos...no one lets me keep them anymore.....deb

[Clockwork]

Oh I mean, don't get me wrong, I wouldn't change a thing. Everything that happened prior to my wife and I getting together happened for a reason and made what we have possible. The guys she was with and the relationships I had which probably made me stronger and grow up. So it was really a perfect storm.

 

That being said, I would have so loved to have bumped into her even earlier. She was a beautiful teenager and she had gotten into such great shape by 18 or so. If it were me I wouldn't have been able to keep my hands off her, but for some reason guys didn't really ask her out for a while. Maybe she wasn't confident in herself, I don't know. But I would have injected the confidence right in her and never let her go. Even at 18 and I would be 22 I would be fine with that being the woman I was with the rest of my life.

[Ninja'sHusband]

No, my appologies, I meant to say Clockwork but I am unable to edit the post, it says I need to contact a moderator.

 

Oh ok I didn't think I had said anything particularly gentlemanly!

 

And I agree with your real intent

[BetheButterfly]

I wouldn't flame you in the least.

 

You're longing for your wife at a time when you didn't even know her.

 

I think that's incredibly touching.

 

Agreed I know my husband has with me. He has some of my pics when I was 12 years younger (when I was 23) and I know he has fantasized about me lol. :love: It makes me feel all gushy and happy!!! :bunny:

 

He also loves how I look now and we were talking the other day that I think being with him and being loved by him has made me more beautiful.

[Clockwork]

There is my wife in her prom dress which always turns my crank but there is another picture of her in a black bikini from a couple of years before we met. Yowzers! She has her hair tied up with black sunglasses and she's just strolling up the beach (probably taken by her mom). My wife to this day has a lethal combination of a flat tummy and nicely purportioned boobs, and in that picture I just melt looking at it. It makes me think of what pick up lines I would feed her if I met her that day.

[Doneinne]

I am lucky. I met my wife when she was 17 and I was 19. So I don't have to fantasize. I am now 40. That doesn't mean I don't look at photos from back then.

[Clockwork]

I am lucky. I met my wife when she was 17 and I was 19. So I don't have to fantasize. I am now 40. That doesn't mean I don't look at photos from back then.

 

I met my wife 4 years after her prom. I asked her once who the guy was that took her in the picture. He was a friend and he took off with his buddies before the end of the night.

 

"I'd have taken your virginity that night." I've said. In my mind, wearing that dress, I have.

[Eve]

Yes, we both wish we had met when we were younger but we are cool with just looking at photos off each other. I have a number of photos that I keep on my vanity table and admire daily.. he is so hott!

 

Nice thread OP!

 

Take care,

Eve x

[Clockwork]

My SO has expressed that he wished he knew me when he was in high school. However, it isn't really in the context of my level of attractiveness, it is more because he just really, really likes me as a person, lol; and he wishes that we were friends so we could have developed a bond from a younger age. Although, I do believe the sex plays in as well. If we knew each other when we were younger he wouldn't have had to utilize his hand so much.

 

Sorry, I hate abbreviations with things, I ignore them when I know what the person means but with this one I have no clue what "SO" is. I assume your husband I guess?

[smoky eyes]

I'm actually glad to have met my partner when we're "older" (he's 32, I'm 29). I'm not even sure why. I find pictures of him from years ago cute/funny but I just really love looking at his face and seeing that he isn't a teenager, and not just for the sexual experience.

 

He told me at the beginning he "adored my beautiful dark circles" so I guess it's mutual...

[ThomasD]

This thread interests me in two somewhat different ways.

 

First is the idea of being seriously attracted, in a romantic way, to a person based on a picture from years ago. In fact, this idea was the basis for the film "Somewhere In Time" (see the "official website" http://www.somewhereintime.tv/intro1.htm , Wikipedia synopsis http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somewhere_in_Time_%28film%29 , IMDb writeup http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0081534/plotsummary?ref_=tt_ql_6 , video out-takes http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrEhKxYnKGs , etc). In the screenplay, the young man Richard Collier (Christopher Reeve) is approached by a very elderly woman who hands him an antique pocket watch and cryptically says "Come back to me." A few weeks later, while on vacation, he sees a decades-old photograph of a young actress (Elise McKenna, played by Jane Seymour) and realizes she is the same woman who gave him the watch - and he becomes infatuated with her. The plot gets a little hokey as Collier "travels back" through 60 years to meet McKenna at the height of her career, but the relationship develops and the next-to-last scene implies that she gives her virginity to him.

 

The whole premise of the story begs the question of whether two people who love each other would fall in love regardless of when in their lives they met. And, can you be truly attracted by photographic images, without personal acquaintance? At a deep philosophical level it gets into the question of whether "soul mates" exist.

 

(The film wasn't much of a commercial success, but has attracted a cult following, fan club, and occasional fan conventions at the filming location. Gray-haired people still embarrass their kids by re-enacting the "Is it you?" scene on the original location. See 2:00 to 3:40 in the clip at

.)

[ThomasD]

OK, the second thing that interests me about this thread is the overwhelming emphasis on physical appearance and sexuality.

 

For the record - my wife and I have been married for 39 years. We were both 22 when we met, a few months after college. We married about a year after meeting, and gave our virginity to each other on our wedding night (an experience that was emotionally VERY intense for both of us). I had one girlfriend before her, in the last few months of High School (in fact, she WAS my Prom date!) and through the summer afterwards. My wife had several less serious relationships through High School and college.

 

I have sometimes wondered whether my wife and I would have been attracted to each other if we had met at younger ages. Although we are both generally attractive (tall, slim, etc), and certainly attractive to each other, neither of us has ever been anything like "stunning" by cultural standards of physical attraction, nor have we paid excessive attention to our appearance, fashionable clothes, etc. From what I can tell, the girl I met and fell in love with at 22 wasn't significantly different in appearance from what she was at 18.

 

At the start of our relationship the mental attraction was more significant than the physical. In fact, we wrote to each other, sight unseen, for over 3 months and fell very much "in like" with each other before we even met. Based on that I have to wonder if we would have been as attracted to each other before we matured and developed as people during the High School and college years. In that sense, perhaps we DID meet at just the right time in our lives.

 

Taking the thought a step farther - in retrospect, I truly think my first girlfriend and I COULD have had a satisfying and fulfilling marriage. I now see that my wife is better suited as my life partner than that first girlfriend. However, I wonder how much of that can be attributed to the fact that I was 18 when I loved the first girlfriend, but 22 when I fell in love with my wife.

 

(Coming back to the appearance and sexuality theme running through the thread - I never fondled that first girlfriend, or saw her naked, and certainly didn't have sex with her. But she was awesome at making out, not afraid to discuss sexuality, and generally adventurous within the limits we set. I certainly can't complain about the sex life I've enjoyed (and still enjoy!) with my wife, though I suspect the first girlfriend may have turned out to be a physiologically better bed partner. The mental and emotional aspects of sex are as important as the physical appearance and technique, though I certainly didn't understand that when I was in High School.)

[Els]

We're not married yet, but we met at about the same age your wife was when she met you, OP, and we're currently both just a couple of years younger than her, so I shall butt in anyway.

 

We will probably take each others' technical virginity when/if we marry, but we've both had lovers before, albeit stopping before intercourse. And yeah, I've fantasized a little about how it might have been, if we had met while we were in school instead, both young and carefree and sneaking around after school just to hold hands and kiss for a while There's something just so adorable (wrong choice of word, maybe, but meh ) about young puppy love. Plus he just looks so cute in his school photos.

[Els]

Sorry, I hate abbreviations with things, I ignore them when I know what the person means but with this one I have no clue what "SO" is. I assume your husband I guess?

 

Significant other. Usually used to denote a long-term partner, whether married, unmarried, or engaged.

[Clockwork]

Significant other. Usually used to denote a long-term partner, whether married, unmarried, or engaged.

 

Ah..alright.

 

Back on topic, you know, I am glad I was 26 anf my wife was 22 when we met. It worked out perfectly that way. If I was 20 would I have gone after a 16 year old? I don't know. But would she have been mature enough? Maybe, maybe not. So I am glad we met when we met because it leads us to where we are today.

 

However, there are times when I wish I could insert myself at a time that certain pictures were being taken. Even if just for that one day and then I go back to the present time. I would definitely have made a move on her on her prom night. I would have cut the time at the prom short for sure. Plus there is a picture of her about a year or two before we met. She is on the beach, wearing a black bikini walking on the sand. Big smile on her face still in the same incredible shape as she is now. And part of me would have loved to just be there to mount her like an animal. Because at that time she was single, no guy around, no nothing. And I say to myself, "Man, that is one girl that needed to be ravaged!"

[Els]

OP, you have no idea! It's kind of sweet to me that you are even thinking about "younger" when you're really both young yourselves.

 

I've noticed that 'young' and 'old' are very, very relative terms.

 

Last birthday (I was 26), all I could think about was "Damn, I'm so old now! How young I was 10 years ago!!"

[Els]

 

LOL, from what I have been told my SO was extremely shy in school. He was nominated the quietest guy in school, but he didn't accept the award. I have had fantasies about us being a young couple and me being the one to bring him out of his shell. Which I actually did do, his friends and family were shocked as s hit when we became a couple, but it would have been all the more fun gossip fodder if it was high school.

 

ROFL, same here! I always seemed to end up with guys (current bf, and ex) whom nobody expected, simply because they didn't talk about girls or go chasing after hordes of them like the usual teenage/college horndog. People didn't know what lay beneath the quiet shell... :love:

 

I think part of my reason for fantasizing about meeting him in my youth, was because I didn't have a bf in high school, while my bf had a gf back then. Probably due to my being in a single-sex school, while he was in co-ed. I still wouldn't have traded my high school experiences and the friends I made there for the world, but a little fantasy is nice...

[KathyM]

I was 18 when I met and started dating my husband. He was 24. So we have pictures and memories of being together in our early youth.