NGC1300 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 You know that old saying, "we hate in others what we hate in ourselves" ? That's how I've been seeing my father lately. He's introverted, doesn't socialize, admitts he lacks confidence and is content with a simple life of work and sleep, etc. Part of me can relate to this, because is some ways I'm just like him. The problem is, at the age of 28, this is causing me a lot of problems in life, and I've begun to accept that my father simply wasn't someone who taught me anything in life. The harshest thing to acknowledge, is that I don't look up to my dad, and that I don't want to be anything like him. This is harsh for me, because I do of course love him. But he's just not the person I want to end up being. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Are you my ex boyfriend? Acknowledging that he is NOT what you want to be is a great step. Now comes action. Actively changing yourself into who you DO want to be. I am in the almost exact opposite position. I have fought my entire life to not be like my mother. But guess what. I picked up some of her traits despite being away from her half my life. I hope they are the good ones. And the bad ones i am all too aware of. Keep what and who you want to be in the forefront of your mind. And act on it. Otherwise genetics will take over. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
speedstreak Posted December 17, 2012 Share Posted December 17, 2012 Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Don't come to conclusions just yet Also, there seems to be a preference to extroversion for no real reason. An introvert, like myself, can do extrovert things. I can public speak (and enjoy it), perform in theatre and I can be wild at social events. The only difference between me and an extrovert is that it drains my energy. Perhaps you are shy? This leads to a different set of questions and you need to sort yourself out if you are not happy with it. People are flawed, people are also brilliant. Your father has certain flaws, that will be the case for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
coffeebean201 Posted December 17, 2012 Share Posted December 17, 2012 Sounds like it is time for some good mentors in areas that do excite you. Link to post Share on other sites
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