is it love

[TSR]

My girlfriend and I have told each other that we love each other, but we are not together. I am a college two hours away from her and she is in a college also. We told each other that we will see other people but she says she loves me and i still love her. Is it real love when she tells me after the night before she just got done dancing with other guys, making out with them, and even possibility doing somehting sexual. Should She really be doing these if she really loves me? When she says she loves me does she really mean. Should i still try to hold on to her or just push her aside and say you dont really love and call her a slut? Please help me.

[Tony T]

There's a big difference between love and commitment. I think she absolutely loves you. But that doesn't mean she can't kiss, make out, and have wild and wonderful sex with other guys she's attracted to.

 

Sleeping with men doesn't make a girl a slut any more than it makes a man a scumbag. She is not in a committed relationship with you and has no obligation to you whatsever. She is young and you are not in her proximity so she feels she needs an outlet for her sexuality and she takes the proper action.

 

There is also no law that says a person can only be in love with one person...or love one person. Also making love or having sex can be a lot different that being in love or loving someone.

 

I think your problem is with the fact that this girl is involved with other guys right now and you don't like it. But until you come to some understanding with her that the two of you are committed to each other, she has no obligation to you.

 

Also, I wouldn't press my luck by discussing committment with this lady because she is having fun and I don't think she would be too receptive to the idea.

 

She is not a slut, she just knows how to have fun and be honest about it.

 

Now if she knows how deeply you feel about her, that you are madly in love with her, and she still graphically discusses her experiences with other men with you, then I think she is a slut...but only if that's what she's doing. In that case, delete her from your hard drive.

[Deejette]

Sex and love are two different things and people can have great sex and not be in love. But if you are in love, then it can really hurt if your loved one is not sexually exclusive.

 

I would let her know if it really hurts you, when she gets physically close to other guys. But, on the other hand, she is being honest with you and probably feels there is nothing wrong with what she is doing as long as her heart stays with you.

 

You may need to lay it on the line that you can't stand thinking of her with other guys.

There's a big difference between love and commitment. I think she absolutely loves you. But that doesn't mean she can't kiss, make out, and have wild and wonderful sex with other guys she's attracted to. Sleeping with men doesn't make a girl a slut any more than it makes a man a scumbag. She is not in a committed relationship with you and has no obligation to you whatsever. She is young and you are not in her proximity so she feels she needs an outlet for her sexuality and she takes the proper action. There is also no law that says a person can only be in love with one person...or love one person. Also making love or having sex can be a lot different that being in love or loving someone.

 

I think your problem is with the fact that this girl is involved with other guys right now and you don't like it. But until you come to some understanding with her that the two of you are committed to each other, she has no obligation to you. Also, I wouldn't press my luck by discussing committment with this lady because she is having fun and I don't think she would be too receptive to the idea. She is not a slut, she just knows how to have fun and be honest about it. Now if she knows how deeply you feel about her, that you are madly in love with her, and she still graphically discusses her experiences with other men with you, then I think she is a slut...but only if that's what she's doing. In that case, delete her from your hard drive.

[annie]

Well if you love someone let them know you love them so they can also invest time in you and the relationship.If you do want to sleep around then you in the first place should not be in any relationship cause you are wasting your time and your partners time. You or your partner could use that time to look and invest time in someone who can truelly love them and be devoted and that is the meaning of love not to sleep around.

There's a big difference between love and commitment. I think she absolutely loves you. But that doesn't mean she can't kiss, make out, and have wild and wonderful sex with other guys she's attracted to. Sleeping with men doesn't make a girl a slut any more than it makes a man a scumbag. She is not in a committed relationship with you and has no obligation to you whatsever. She is young and you are not in her proximity so she feels she needs an outlet for her sexuality and she takes the proper action. There is also no law that says a person can only be in love with one person...or love one person. Also making love or having sex can be a lot different that being in love or loving someone.

 

I think your problem is with the fact that this girl is involved with other guys right now and you don't like it. But until you come to some understanding with her that the two of you are committed to each other, she has no obligation to you. Also, I wouldn't press my luck by discussing committment with this lady because she is having fun and I don't think she would be too receptive to the idea. She is not a slut, she just knows how to have fun and be honest about it. Now if she knows how deeply you feel about her, that you are madly in love with her, and she still graphically discusses her experiences with other men with you, then I think she is a slut...but only if that's what she's doing. In that case, delete her from your hard drive.