heartbroken

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I started seeing a woman last December and we fell in love instantly. Everything seemed great. We got along great, met each others families, friends all liked each other etc. Totally fantastic, of course the occasional disagreement , but basically wonderful. We told each other how much we loved each other all the time, planned on having a life together, kids etc. I gave her my grandmother's engagement ring and while we had no plans to have a formal wedding, we both understood this as a promise to be together "forever."

The day after Thanksgiving, she broke up with me and it felt like completely out of nowhere. Just days before we were saying we were the luckiest to have found each other. I know she has been under a little stress because she is in grad school and I had definitely noticed a little bit of distance/stress on her part but I thought this was just because she was doing finals etc. We had a trip planned to Maui for New Year's to celebrate out year anniversary.

When she broke up with me, she all of a sudden did a 180 and told me we could never make each other happy, she didn't "get" me and it was like we were from different planets. She still hasn't talked to me, or tried to get in touch. I have not tried to contact her since except 1 email sent about 10 days ago. The topic was trying to separate our cell phones (we have joint plan and I cannot put my phone in my name without her permission) and what to do with her plane ticket. It was an expensive ticket and I would like to be paid back for it.

I am so sad and hurt and love her so much. I still can't really believe this has happened. I would want to be with her if I felt she could figure out whatever she is going thru. But am trying to get used to the fact that maybe she is just totally over it/gone.

Any advice with how to handle all this? - the emotional stuff plus taking care of phone/ticket etc.

 

Thanks