Should I pursue her again?

[wolvie666]

For anyone who doesn't know my story, my fiancee dumped me after 7 years of being together and started going out with somebody else. Long story short. The guy she's been seeing is a serious loser and jerk and she has been behaving very out of character (drinking alot, etc.). It's been over 2 months now and I've been doing the whole no contact thing. She generally calls me once a week since I have quit calling her, but things have sorta changed this week. She called me tuesday afternoon and was telling me that she dumped the guy and that she realized he was an a**h*** and didn't know what she ever saw in him. She then started saying that she missed me and I was her best friend and the closest thing to her and she wanted to see me this week. She then said that the guy she was/is seeing said he would hunt me down and kill me if she came back to me (oh I'm scared), and then she said, "I just wanted to tell you he said that, but don't worry he'll get over it." So without saying she wanted to get back together she was basically hinting at it. Well later that night I saw that she was at his house.

 

I was pretty mad about that because the phone call she gave me earlier that day was basically just messing with my friggin head. We had planned to do something tonight and I wasn't going to call her like she asked but I did just because I was pissed enough that I wanted to tell her off for the phone call tuesday. So I called her and as expected she told me she couldn't do anything with me tonight. I said, "please don't lie to me, I don't want to play games with you, I know you're still seeing that dude..." She persisted to deny it though. She said she was at his house but it wasn't like that, etc. I don't buy that though. But why is she lying to me? She didn't have any problem telling me that they were together before, why lie now 2 months later? So I played it cool and just went along with what she was saying and we moved on to other topics of conversation. It ended up being the first time since we broke up that we talked normal and I had her laughing. So then she started saying, "Maybe we should get together tonight..." But I said, "No, it's not important maybe next week." And she started telling me that her and her mom had to start working on cooking for her grandparents anniversary party this weekend, but she would call me back later. Then I ended the conversation. That was 2 hours ago and she hasn't called me back yet, and I don't really expect her to. But I'm thinking talking to me reminded her of how much fun we had together and that was why she then wanted to do something.

 

I want nothing more than to get her away from this jerk. I know I have a better personality than him and a wider range of interests and have so much more in common with her than he does (even she admits this) and maybe if I play it cool and talk to her like a friend it will bring her back... She's obviously having serious doubts about the guy (basically he's doing a whole bunch of stupid ignorant stuff just like I knew he would) even though she is still seeing him. Should I get myself back in her life? The no contact thing is only working in that she does end up calling me if I don't call her. Maybe I can woo her back to me? I don't know, I'm seriously doubting this idea myself, but this guy does jack for her and it seems like she's realizing that now.

[Touch_of_Naughtiness]

Why do you want to get her away from him if she obviously does not want to be away from HIM? I think she's a selfish woman and just wants both of you. Don't play her game if you do not know how to lose!