supermom Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Sometimes I just want to run away! I am married w/ a 2 yr old. And there is really nothing wrong with my marriage or daughter but damn! Sometimes the pressures of being a wife and mother get to me. The other night I wanted to take some alone time in my room, just to watch my own tv show and be by myself. My husband came in and wanted me to hang out w/ the family. I JUST WANTED TO BE BY MYSELF! I caved in and went into the livingroom but damn I just wanted to be alone. Why do I feel like this? My sex drive is down and I'm only 25! I feel 35 at this point. What should I do to ease my frustration?! Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 supermom, I think you should just run away OK you may need to plan it, rather than just disappearing. You sound as though you need a break. Try and arrange to have a little time for yourself, go out with your friends occasionally, have a day off every now and then if someone can look after your child for you. Find a role for yourself outside that of wife and mother, is there anything you've given up when your daughter was born that you would like to start again? If you can afford it, many gyms/sports clubs have creches. If you crave time alone you can pretend to be using the gym while you actually lie by the pool . Many Mums feel this way - I did before I went back to work. If you find a friend in the same position then arrange to let the other person have time to themselves when you visit rather than always playing host. Then they can do the same for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author supermom Posted August 13, 2004 Author Share Posted August 13, 2004 I work too. I think I need a fun night out with the girls! Haven't in awhile. My husband is pretty cool about it and will watch my girlfriends kids too if needed. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Thinkalot Posted August 15, 2004 Share Posted August 15, 2004 Hope you're feeling a bit better supermom Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted August 15, 2004 Share Posted August 15, 2004 meanon , I think that was some really great advice you gave supermom. I know I am not a mom, nor a female, nor a wife, nor married LMAO, however, just wanted to agree with meanon and that I too think you need something of your own to be involved with - and since it seems you are feeling like you need more alone time or "time-away," something that would get you out on your own would be good. I can definitely imagine how moms could go nuts if they don't have a career or passion or escape. If in fact you are a stay-at-home mom, then you should communicate to your husband the fact that some regular, routine away time for you is only fair and I would think necessary. I have a 3 year old nephew and a 5 year old niece. I love them to death, but after just one hour with them I am practically tearing my hair out and ready to get away. I know my mom has had a bookclub she is in for what will be 30 years this year they meet every month and also take weekend getaways. is everything okay with your relationship and husband? Or do you wish to get away from him specifically? anyway, lets find you an escape route. I'll think on it. huge hugs. hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
havNfun Posted August 15, 2004 Share Posted August 15, 2004 How about going back to school and taking up painting? I know a mom that did this. Also, my mom - when she needed her own space, went to grad school and got her masters in English. School gives a great excuse and takes you away from the house for a variety of "required" school related activities. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted August 16, 2004 Share Posted August 16, 2004 Everyone needs some alone time. Whether you're gay, straight, single, married, a rocket scientist or a burger flipper. Link to post Share on other sites
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