Is it better to get out of it? Or try to fix it?

[princess75]

Ok, now here is where I stand.

What do you guys think? The one I love, he broke off with me, then within a week started going out with another girl. Then he claimed to love me all that time, and then; he made love with me while he was technically the other girls bf. His roommate, whom he used to blab about his sexual life with, saw me suffer. We were my ex and I in a very serious committed relationship for him to come to a point to do that. So, I was torn. I cried like hell, begged him to come back, he always claimed to love me, and then after a period of no contact with his gf (they were in vacation) he was with me, but then when she came back he went back to her. Now, he claims that was purely sex. At that time, I was devastated and the roommate, saw it. He was my shoulder to cry on, and he wanted to help. HE asked me out, as friends...the only thing I did was talk about my ex. But then, we had sex. I was willing, this is because, I wanted to make sure, I was not with my ex just because he had been my first. And this guy was a friend. Now this was only once, adn the relationship[ didn't even last 2 weeks. But he gave me a ring, he asked me to marry me. I don't know why. I guess he wanted to marry someone. Now, I of course said no, cause I ONLY love my ex. Well, after my ex, saw a change on me. He saw, I was not calling him no more...(the second guys presence worked out) adn he begged to come back. I went crazy, we did come back and tried it. Now I didn't tell him I had been with this other guy. By the way that guy was moving out of the country...so it was ok. And he never was going to say anything. Now, when our relationship went better, ..even though it was same problems around it, I thought maybe my silence might be affecting the relationship. So I decided to tell him truth of what happened. Now yesterday I talked to him, and he felt very sad and feels back stabbed. I am feeling guilty, but on the other hand I should not ...Technically I did not do anything wrong. Thing is my guy, ex or whatever you want to call him ..the 1st one, is sad cause I am not "pure" as I used to be. So, I had only been with him...and no one else. HE also says why him, he was like my brother. Technically this is also true, adn that is the part where I am feeling it was all wrong. But u know I had not control over my acts due to my emotions....of desperation..and I had to get out of the love triangle . He had made me the 2nd girl when I had been his love. AND also, I don't believe in all this, of going out with a guy who goes out with another person.

Now, can anyone tell me what do you think? HE also asked me what should he do? What suggestions and opinions are out there? Is there a way to work all this out at all? Or is it better to let go for good?

[cinnamonstix49]

Let it go hon... things will be better in the long run.