10 days NC, now she wants therapy to incl our two daughters?

[Caldespair]

I've let it be known I'm doing therapy on my own, and invited her to attend. Our two teenage girls caught in middle, but very close with me and think mom is cra cra (crazy). I've been out of house for about 2 weeks at local hotel. My wife suddenly says therapy might be fine if we include the girls? This makes no sense to me, they are 16 and 18 and it would only confuse things. The issues to work on have zero to do with our daughters whom we both adore.

Any thoughts? Is this done with kids? I Lm w my therapist to see what she thinks, sounds nuts, like my wife, to me.(had to get dig in sorry)

Thanks for any input.

[Kelemvor]

I don't know what to say... I don't have kids but including them in your marriage counseling does not sound wise.

 

Perhaps others have a higher opinion of marital counseling. We tried it twice before our divorce. One very early in the marriage when the D word came up initially which should have been an indication of very poor choice on both our parts in marrying, and again when things were circling the drain so to speak. The first was my idea and the second hers. Both counseling sessions were time consuming and futile. I think the only thing I learned from the psychologist the first time around was how incompatible we apparently were for each other and I don't think I learned anything the second time around.

 

I would give it a shot, and give it time to go somewhere but if you find yourself weeks later having made no progress, I would recommend cutting your losses and considering yourself to have given it an honest effort. That's what I did.

 

Good luck.

[Leaf9]

I would say no. I'm not sure what she thinks your kids can add to the process. It's your marriage and your problem, not theirs. Tell her no thanks (all the while telling yourself that she is just as crazy as you always thought!).