What is going on?

[DoubleFault]

Not sure if I'm posting in the right place but here goes.

 

I met this guy online earlier this year randomly. Wasn't expecting anything to happen but we got to talking. He is married with kids and I knew that, I'm single. (Please don't judge). Our convos are always pretty sexual and we've exchanged sexual pics, sexual acts on Syke, etc. He travels sometimes for work and he has invited me to join him. I always said no for various reasons. But the thing that gets me is that he's insistent that we can never have sex or whatever because he's married. Um, what? Then why is he inviting me to his room?!

 

We have not met in person yet but we've talked on the phone, on Skype, text, etc. I do not understand his behavior. Honestly I AM very attracted to him and I didn't go to his hotel room not because I didn't want him. I just don't understand his thinking? Is this guy just very confused?

[2sure]

He thinks that if he tells you that marriage means something to him, you will overlook the fact that it doesn't and insist on having sex with him.

[DoubleFault]

He thinks that if he tells you that marriage means something to him, you will overlook the fact that it doesn't and insist on having sex with him.

 

What? lol.

 

I just thought it was an ego thing that he says to try and make himself feel better about everything but I find it so weird.

[DoubleFault]

He's not confused. He's creating "competition" between you and his wife. If he even has one.

 

What better way to get a woman to sleep with a married man? Get her all hot and heavy and then tell her you can't sleep with her.

 

Many women will make their mission to make it happen.

 

Wow that actually makes a ton of sense because his "insistence" on no sex makes me want him even more.

 

So essentially this is his game then???

[whichwayisup]

Not sure if I'm posting in the right place but here goes.

 

I met this guy online earlier this year randomly. Wasn't expecting anything to happen but we got to talking. He is married with kids and I knew that, I'm single. (Please don't judge). Our convos are always pretty sexual and we've exchanged sexual pics, sexual acts on Syke, etc. He travels sometimes for work and he has invited me to join him. I always said no for various reasons. But the thing that gets me is that he's insistent that we can never have sex or whatever because he's married. Um, what? Then why is he inviting me to his room?!

 

We have not met in person yet but we've talked on the phone, on Skype, text, etc. I do not understand his behavior. Honestly I AM very attracted to him and I didn't go to his hotel room not because I didn't want him. I just don't understand his thinking? Is this guy just very confused?

 

You do not know this man at all. You only know the bits and pieces he shares with you and that's not a lot.

 

If you go, (and I really hope you do not go!!) you could be putting your own life in danger. Let alone expose yourself to STD's. You probably aren't the first he's done this with. So much could go wrong.. Imagine this situation happening to your best friend or your daughter one day - What advice would you give?? NO good can come of this, not one good thing.

 

Forget him and focus on meeting real guys out in the real world, not online, let alone married ones.

[Lillyfree]

Wow that actually makes a ton of sense because his "insistence" on no sex makes me want him even more.

 

So essentially this is his game then???

 

it's amazing, isn't it? to think that they could play with people like that. yet, they do.

i couldn't get it into my head that the guy i fell for, and how... was applying certain techniques to get me to fall for him. there's a lot of info online, do some searches and then read, read some more, and it might start making sense for you.

i am a person that's honest and open, and everything i said and felt was 100% sincere. and it's heartbreaking to learn that the person you opened up to and cared so much about was manipulating you into getting to that point.

 

not sure how invested you are, from what you've written i assume you feel sexually attracted to him and that you're not emotionally invested. my advice is to tell him to f off.

 

also, everything that WWIU said.

[DoubleFault]

He's a real person..... I can't get into here how I know this but trust me he is who he says he is. He's not lying about being married or having kids.

 

But what I dont get is that I don't need "convincing". He knows I want him and that I would totally sleep w/him so I don't know why he keeps saying stupid **** like we can't hook up or whatever when his actions says otherwise??

[Lillyfree]

if you don't mind, how old are you?

how old is he?

[DoubleFault]

I'm late 20s he's late 30's

[Lillyfree]

I'm late 20s he's late 30's

 

from what you are saying, i thought you were a lot younger...

but then, naive and too trusting doesn't depend on what age you are i guess.

 

in the end you will do what you will do. please be careful and look after yourself.

if nothing else, should you decide to go ahead and meet with him, make sure it's in a public place, during daytime. that way you will be able to assess him better and if your gut tells you he's trouble you will be able to escape unharmed.

[neveragain34]

Maybe he has an incurable STD that he got from one of the many other women (and maybe even men) he has met online for sex and is considerate enough not to risk passing it on to you.

 

No good can come of this; especially since you met him online. Trust me! I'm learning that the hard way. I met my xMM online (match.com) and he made me feel like the most amazing woman in the world to him, saying and doing all the right things. Turns out he was looking for women on Craigslist as well throughout our "relationship". When confronting his wife, she said this is the 17th time he's cheated on her that she knows of. One day when you wake up from fantasy land, you will see this man is not really who you think he is and his wife is probably a very sweet woman, the opposite of what he portrays. Get out now while its still easy!