JackJackJackie Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I dated a guy (classic commitment phobe) for about a year, then found out he had a whole secret life and was pretty much seeing 2 other women. I was devestated and ended it, but we maintained contact because I have to see him at work every day. He left for an extended overseas holiday 6 months ago. For the entire time he's been overseas he has been calling, texting and emailing me. I have only once responded to his attempts at contact and that was for business purposes. He knows that I am still terribly hurt by his betrayal and trying to get on with my life. I told him before he left that I needed no contact. Him leaving has been the best thing that has happened to me because I don't have to face him every day. But the constant barrage of emails and messages just brings me down. WHY does he keep contacting me when I never respond? Why does he continue to chase me when he has a new girlfriend? He's giving me false hope - I could so easily think that he's being genuine when all he really wants is for me to adore him again and give him everything in return for nothing. HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
overseas2004 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Because besides being afraid of commitment he is also a hopeless womanizer. Collecting as many as he can and trying to keep or regain the ones that have got away. If being away from him helps you that much then I would write him a note telling him that his behavior is called stalking and punishable by 30 days in prison in most states. That should be enough to end it. Link to post Share on other sites
simplybrill Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 What a creep! It really is a womanizing thing, he's keeping "maintenance" on your relationship, by constantly messaging, emailing you---and he knows how it affects you, and he knows that constant contact will force you in some way to think of him--you have to tell him FLAT OUT to stop all of it. If he keeps doing it, change your number. Link to post Share on other sites
TrueSmiles12 Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 i absolutely feel your frustration in this situation. please read my posts because we can absolutely relate to one another: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t43786/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t44054/ http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t44687/ Why do they keep contacting us?? Even when we ask for no contact until we are ready to move on.. it doesn't make it any easier when they are still a part of our lives with their strong presence, whether we like it or not. False hope, UGHHH. I hate it! Link to post Share on other sites
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