LG00116 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 First I need to give a little background. Im 24 now and have been dating my girlfriend for 8 years (since highschool). I was her best friend through out middle school and was helping her through relationship problems with someone that she was infatuated with. One thing lead to another and boom, we were dating. The other person that she was after found out we had started dating and decided he was going to start treating her good just after we started dating. Naturally, she became confused and ended up leaving me a few weeks after we started dating. I was pretty broken up about it but low and behold, he got her back (and got what he wanted) and began treating her like **** again, so she came back to me. This situation went on through out the our senior year in high school, eventually everything leveled out. However, Towards the end of high school she again became confused and told me she fell for my best friend (go figure) and she broke up with me for him. I was again broken up about it and stuck around so that she could "find herself". She again, came back to me after cheating on my friend with me. Now, please keep in mind that I understand that at that point in our lives we were both immature and the relationship game really did not have that heavy of an impact on anything. Just after high school we decided to start dating again (keep in mind, regardless of all the things listed before, we were both still in love with each other, at least I think so). However, we decided that it would be best if we kept our relationship quite so that my friend that she had just broken up with feelings did not get hurt. Fast forward 6 years to today, the past 6 years were spent with our relationship on the DL with its ups and downs. For sure at this point our relationship was in the gutter, she was treating me poorly and I was unhappy. I opened up my computer the other night and found that she left her facebook open, well, I decided to snoop. In short, I found out that she ended a relationship with another one of my friends about two years ago. In other words, she had a full on relationship with some else and me at the same time. I confronted her to which she denied everything at first then came clean the next day, however, not entirely clean. I know that she had sex with him again about a year ago (shes not admitting this). Now that shes caught and everything is in the open she is saying all the right things to me. I cannot help but feel the urge to go back with her, I know that its crazy of me to feel that way. This girl turned my world upside down, Im staying strong for now and I have no plans on getting back with her. I still love her but I know that trying to have a relationship her again would most definitely be suicide. Will what im feeling go away? Will I stop caring about her? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated, trying to do anything I can to get through this. Should I go out and date? Can this relationship be mended down the road? Should I stay single? PS There are plenty of details ive left out ( I could write a book on our relationship) Link to post Share on other sites
Later82012 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 She has proved to you time and again that she is not trustworthy. It seems to me that you are her backup forever. You need to find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 She has never stopped cheating on you and never will. It hurts to leave her but you will heal from this. I have seen too many guy's marry a girl as yours and wound up having a WW that cheated throughout their whole marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 You would have to be masochistic and have absolutely no respect for yourself to go back with her. If the roles were reversed do you think she would have been so forgiving as you? I suggest you move on and get an STD test. Link to post Share on other sites
MichiganMan222 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 You've dated since HS... You do realize there's other women out there right? Lots and lots of really great ones that will leave their Facebook open all the time because they have nothing to hide. It's time to relegate this one to the trash-heap of bad ex's, find a real woman and enjoy life instead of walking around wondering who's ramming 'your' girlfriend today. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 My question is, Do you have a friend she HASN'T slept with yet? Dude, she's a serial cheater and she's not going to stop. So, you need to put a stop to it by ending the relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TG1 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Once a cheater always a cheater, remember that the next time you feel the need to take her back 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Ask her back for her purse...I think you left your balls in it Link to post Share on other sites
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