unsureofthings Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 I know what your thinking.... Why is he or she doing this? Doesnt he or she love me anymore? I've apologized, admitted that I was wrong, asked for another chance and he or she still doesnt respond. Why? Why? Why? I ask myself all of the same questions too. I mean come on, I've only been married for 10 months. Not nearly enough time to really know wether or not throwing in the towel and pulling the plug is the best decision. How could she just flick me aside that I dont mean anything? How could she be so cold? You remember your wedding, your honeymoon and all the other happy times. All she thinks about is the ruff times. What upsets me is we both made vows to one another. "Till death do us part"....... I dont want to be with someone who is willing to just give up on me and the marriage after only such a short while. Even though I wasnt happy the last few months I never, ever said that I wanted to separate or give up? I'm not a quitter.... confused? Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Huh? I'm so confused? Is she leaving you after 10 months and now your confused? Help me out here so that I can help you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author unsureofthings Posted August 13, 2004 Author Share Posted August 13, 2004 Sorry... We've been separated for about two weeks now. At the time I was so frustrated and mad with her and the relationship that I was all for it. Now that she's gone its given me a real kick in the butt! It made me realize that there is no way that I'm throwing in the towel after such a short time. I feel as though not enough effort was really put forth. I came to her about three days ago and said that I was sorry (although not all is my fault), that I really dont want to pull the plug yet, that I loved her very much and so on. As you've probably guessed all she said was "I think we should continue with the separation". At then end of the conversation I told her to please think about everything before making irrational descisions and she said that she would. I paniced when she said what she said and it resulted in a little begging and pleading. Its becauase I cant have her anymore maybe? I dont know... All I can do now is sit back, relax because I've opened the door for her. The ball is in her court now! Link to post Share on other sites
EC Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Exactly...Thats all you can do right now is wait. She's confused, probably still angry and hurting and needs time to think. You've opened the door and now she has the ball. Is she says after everything that she wants to continue with the separation then hey you cry you grieve you move on. NEXT! Link to post Share on other sites
TempSain Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Maybe I can help, I am trying to understand your situation but I have a question. Exactly what caused her to want seperation at this time? Is there another man? Are you guys young? Link to post Share on other sites
Author unsureofthings Posted August 13, 2004 Author Share Posted August 13, 2004 Hi, No, there isnt another man are we arent too young. I'm 28 and she's 25. She left because we were always fighting for the last couple months and I guess it got frustrating. At the time it sounded like a good idea to me and maybe it was. Maybe we needed a month apart to really think about this. If you ask me though, quiting on a marriage of only 10 months is pathetic! I would never unless I was cheated on several times! Link to post Share on other sites
TempSain Posted August 13, 2004 Share Posted August 13, 2004 Yes quiting after 10 months is pathetic but alot of people don't have the patience of our parents generation. My advice to you is to stop begging. Let her think and give her some time. The more you pest her, the more she wants to leave you. Use reverse psychology and hope that she will come back. Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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