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lana94

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So the situation is ive been with my boyfriend a month. hes very nice, very trustworthy and treats me well. However the sex has been pleasant but slightly underwhelming. He always has reasons - condoms make it bad etc so he defi

nitely realises even though ive never said anything. I was a virgin before him and he's slept with other people so I've just been assuming its me not him. Then on saturday I went out d onwith people from work and one of the guys was flirting with me non stop. We went outsidde to look for my friend and he pulled me away from the club and somehow we started kissing. I stopped it then, because i thought i would never cheat and because i had never thought about him like that before. Later on we all wemt back to my friends for more drinks and I ended up having sex with him and we spent the night together. It was amazing, much better than with my boyfriend. I feel awful now, as if I should break up with my boyfriend. I feel reluctant to do this though as the other guy is much older and lives with his girlfriend, and we'll never be more than a fling. I'm not sure at all what to do. Any advice?

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nofool4u

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Then on saturday I went out d onwith people from work and one of the guys was flirting with me non stop.

 

Because you didn't put a stop to it.

 

 

We went outsidde to look for my friend and he pulled me away from the club and somehow we started kissing.

 

Somehow? Really? You are going to feign ignorance about how you two came to start kissing?

 

 

I stopped it then, because i thought i would never cheat and because i had never thought about him like that before. Later on we all wemt back to my friends for more drinks and I ended up having sex with him and we spent the night together.

It was amazing, much better than with my boyfriend.

 

Well then it should be settled. Break up with your bf.

 

 

I feel awful now, as if I should break up with my boyfriend. I feel reluctant to do this though as the other guy is much older and lives with his girlfriend, and we'll never be more than a fling. I'm not sure at all what to do. Any advice?

 

Doesn't matter if the other guy is older and will never be more than a fling.

 

You break up with your bf because he deserves better. He deserves to find someone like minded as he and that won't cheat on him.

Has nothing to do with whether you will end up with this other guy. You simply become single and stay that way until you can learn to be faithful to a guy.

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How would you feel if the roles had been reversed? In any relationship honesty is the key. You need to be honest with your boyfriend. This is not just about you. Did you use a condom?

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you cheated on your boyfriend after only a MONTH?! with a guy who has a girlfriend?! wow! That is really pathetic and embarrassing.

 

First of all, dump your boyfriend but NOT for this other guy! Hellooo!!! This other guy is fking scum, he's a cheater (maybe you deserve each other actually) and lives with his gf!! That's the kinda man you want?

 

Are you not capable of just being single?

 

You will only dump your boyfriend if you have someone else to go to?

 

Break up with your boyfriend. Do not date this other loser.

 

Hope you at least made the cheater guy wrap it up!

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Your entire post is about you and what is best for you.

 

That shows you do not care for your bf.

This can and will only end in tears for your bf.

 

PS: If it's not obvious, you are a very selfish person.

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How would you feel if the roles had been reversed? In any relationship honesty is the key. You need to be honest with your boyfriend. This is not just about you. Did you use a condom?

 

Your boyfriend if anything deserves better than you and I hope for his sake he does find better than you by moving on or if anything how would you like it if he up and cheated on you, role reversal, you would see how he feels but if anything you need to be honest with him for breaking his heart and I for one hope he doesn't forgive you for that because no one deserves to be cheated on

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Your entire post is about you and what is best for you.

 

That shows you do not care for your bf.

This can and will only end in tears for your bf.

 

PS: If it's not obvious, you are a very selfish person.

 

Most insightful thing I've read in a while and I think it would benefit you to reread this and understand the consequences your actions have had.

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Honestly I'd just blackmail the old man for money and then stick with the current bf til I find another reason to break up with him. Another time, another place.

 

I have no morals, but then again neither do you. You're not even honest with yourself, so how can we expect you to be honest with others? You already know what the right thing to do is, but instead you twist up your story to a bunch of strangers on the internet so it feels more real to you. You know exactly what happened, so, it's time to decide. It's okay to be a horrible person, but it's not okay to be a weak person. This is what you are; a scared little girl begging for a half-measure instead of making a full decision. I suggest you play like a pure villain(blackmail, lie, cheat, steal, destroy) with pride and style because that whole honor and respect thing sailed a long time ago for you

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Honestly I'd just blackmail the old man for money and then stick with the current bf til I find another reason to break up with him. Another time, another place.

 

I have no morals, but then again neither do you. You're not even honest with yourself, so how can we expect you to be honest with others? You already know what the right thing to do is, but instead you twist up your story to a bunch of strangers on the internet so it feels more real to you. You know exactly what happened, so, it's time to decide. It's okay to be a horrible person, but it's not okay to be a weak person. This is what you are; a scared little girl begging for a half-measure instead of making a full decision. I suggest you play like a pure villain(blackmail, lie, cheat, steal, destroy) with pride and style because that whole honor and respect thing sailed a long time ago for you

 

 

By far one of the best posts I've read on here.

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By far one of the best posts I've read on here.

 

Indeed. The only good thing about this story is the fact that they've only been together a month. Shouldn't be too much of a crushing blow to the guy losing this one. OP may have even done him a favor and shown him that there are horrible women out there and he shouldn't invest too much into someone until he's more certain they are a good, decent person. Might help him on future relationships.

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Chi townD

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Yeah...wow....Okay, Break up with your boyfriend because he deserves a girl that won't cheat on him. And tell him the reason as to WHY you're breaking up with him. That you cheated on him with someone else and he was sooo much better than you that I have to see what else is out there!

 

Easy! Problem solved for ya!

 

 

Glad I could help!

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