sadpanda87 Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 just trying to figurr out a few things, some contributed to the recent break up ive been told that im a jealous person, while i dont particularly think so. when i was with my ex ive been told that i stop her from frequent interactions with her guy friends, or get angry when she spends too much time with other guys and that i shouldnt step in when other guys start flirting with her online or in front of me. from my point of view my version of normal gf interaction with other guys is hugs when they havnt seen eachother for a while, physical interaction like holding the shoulder etc. i think its not quite appropriate say going to the movies/swimming with a single guy... maybe im too old fashioned? i dont think this is a confidence thing. sure she was quite attractive but i sure am not ugly either. so the guys - what are your standards, girls - do you think im overly possessive and jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 Wow, had to double check who started this thread. Thought maybe I had and forgot about doing it. This is nothing more than my opinion. It appears that a lot of young women are getting in the habit of surrounding themselves with available men AND trying to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship. This causes problems, but few seem to care. The burden of acceptance is dumped onto the poor boyfriend. If you want to keep them, you have to swallow all the crap they shovel your way. You have to change, you have to be the one who changes to maintain the relationship. You have to be the one being controlled. I say screw that. Be a man and stand your ground. God forbid a girl has to curb her active social life and actually compromise. You will get dumped for standing your ground, but you wont be some spoiled brat's bitch. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 And let's cut the crap about opposite sex friends. I'll bet you your girl isnt going swimming with some overweight, more body hair than a bigfoot, dude with bad skin and a weird voice. Nope, he's cute isnt he? What about her other friends? Yeah, exactly. And just so i dont come off as being a hypocrite, the vast majority Of my female friends are hot. The fact that it seems to be a bit easier to befriend an attractive opposite sex friend speaks volumes. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 just trying to figurr out a few things, some contributed to the recent break up ive been told that im a jealous person, while i dont particularly think so. when i was with my ex ive been told that i stop her from frequent interactions with her guy friends, or get angry when she spends too much time with other guys and that i shouldnt step in when other guys start flirting with her online or in front of me. from my point of view my version of normal gf interaction with other guys is hugs when they havnt seen eachother for a while, physical interaction like holding the shoulder etc. i think its not quite appropriate say going to the movies/swimming with a single guy... maybe im too old fashioned? i dont think this is a confidence thing. sure she was quite attractive but i sure am not ugly either. so the guys - what are your standards, girls - do you think im overly possessive and jealous? No i dont think you are abnormally jealous i answered or liked a post the other day that said something about males being able to friends with females...which i truly believe they can be......but....when a girl is single this is not such a bgi deal ...she may have to ward off advances but it isnt disrepecting a boyfriend she doesnt have, these male friends are just pushing boundaries with her..... when a boyfriend comes into the picture....the boundaries have to be rock steady...if the boyfriend feels feelings of jealousy they need to be adressed and any male friend who decides to overstep the mrk .....has to be let go......i dont believe in going on dates with other men when i am in a relationship....swimming movies etc...its disrespectful and asking for trouble...........i maybe a kamikaze but i am a loyal kamikaze..it would show i didnt care about my boyfriends feelings i am not like that...it also leaves it open for a move to happen...it doesnt happen because i wont let it happen.....if women feel they should be able to go on little outings without their boyfriend and another male enjoy their company alone....it isnt right in my opinion..you are not jealous at all i think your behavior is the norm.....deb Link to post Share on other sites
Author sadpanda87 Posted December 20, 2012 Author Share Posted December 20, 2012 i just remembered that she also tried to organize trips with just two male friends, and told me they were going to rent an apartment together "to save cost". i offeredto just rent her a hotel room but she refused because "they already made plans". we had some very bad argument and the main point was i was overly jealous and dont trust her. i dont know why i was such an idiot. that shouldve been a big red flag 1 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 i just remembered that she also tried to organize trips with just two male friends, and told me they were going to rent an apartment together "to save cost". i offeredto just rent her a hotel room but she refused because "they already made plans". we had some very bad argument and the main point was i was overly jealous and dont trust her. i dont know why i was such an idiot. that shouldve been a big red flag trips away,two male friends....eeek....awkward...nah sadpanda just nah......huge red balloon with seven sadpandas attached she is probably sleeping with them too....hugs......deb Link to post Share on other sites
Vercetti Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 You might be jealous because you're dealing with a attention whore that doesn't shoot down advances from other men but encourages them. Maury Povich who the daddy episode just waiting to happen. You will laugh about this in a decade. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GSB81 Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 i just remembered that she also tried to organize trips with just two male friends, and told me they were going to rent an apartment together "to save cost". i offeredto just rent her a hotel room but she refused because "they already made plans". we had some very bad argument and the main point was i was overly jealous and dont trust her. i dont know why i was such an idiot. that shouldve been a big red flag Unbelievable! Yeah, you're the one with the problem, not her. So what if she's sharing a room with two dudes? What's the worst that could happen, they tag team her? And so what if they do, you don't own her. She's just an independent lady living her life. If you want to be a part of that life, you're gonna have to be more accepting of her bull****, I mean be more trusting. I obviously mean none of that, but that line of thinking seems to be what us guys are up against. There's a way to fix this for future generations of males. Leave these stupid girls alone! My resolution for 2013 is to not put up with one ounce of crap/drama from a girl. Yes I will date, but I will not open up or get too attached to anyone until our 5th wedding anniversary, and only then if it seems safe. Join me, sad panda! At the first sign of something you don't like about the her, take off. I don't care if it's in the middle of a date. If we are at dinner and she keeps texting someone, I will casually ask who she's talking to. If it's a dude, I'm excusing myself and going home. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted December 20, 2012 Share Posted December 20, 2012 I dont think you are abnormally jealous either. You ex does sound like an unreasonable attention whore, sorry to say. I'm not a fan of one on one male-female relationships when in a relationship. For your ex to go on "dates" with other men and even on trips is crazy. I would never be with a man who thought it was ok that he go on a trip with another woman. That's insane. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Clockwork Posted December 21, 2012 Share Posted December 21, 2012 i just remembered that she also tried to organize trips with just two male friends, and told me they were going to rent an apartment together "to save cost". i offeredto just rent her a hotel room but she refused because "they already made plans". we had some very bad argument and the main point was i was overly jealous and dont trust her. i dont know why i was such an idiot. that shouldve been a big red flag Red flags all over that place. I can't begin to tell you the amount of things that could go wrong if a girl rents a place with two guys on a trip. Link to post Share on other sites
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