Author sue123 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 what is a VAR Link to post Share on other sites
Author sue123 Posted February 14, 2013 Author Share Posted February 14, 2013 i AM so fed up now, crying alot i can feel there is something but cant put my finger on it, i just need a friend which i dont have many i can talk to, i dont know how much more i can take:sick: Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 I've also been told that placing a VAR under the steering column is a good spot (better than under the seat). Link to post Share on other sites
Realist3 Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 Over the years, I've read MANY, MANY, MANY stories of men who always came home on time from work every night, never left the house on the weekends alone, and never engaged in any kind of suspicious behavior at night. They were all conducting their affairs purely in the workplace. They would occasionally leave half an hour early at the end of the day with some bogus excuse, they'd meet during their lunch hours, they'd come into work in the morning a bit late because of a "doctor's appointment" or an "oil change" or "their alarm didn't go off" or some such excuse, and the list just goes on and on. Their oh so romantic affairs were usually being conducted in their cars or at the OW's house if she lived just a mile or two away. Some went to public parks, some found cozy little nooks in stairwells or empty/vacant office suites within their office buildings, some had access to locked rooms or trailers on their job sites, some had friends who lived nearby and were happy to let them use their apartment or house for a half hour, etc. etc. etc. You wouldn't be aware of a longer lunch time taken or his leaving work half an hour early or coming in late in the morning. You wouldn't be aware of him spending his lunch half hour in some woman's SUV in the parking lot at work as compared to him sitting in the company cafeteria. How would you possibly know about these little things? As long as he's leaving home at the proper time in the morning and coming home at night at the proper time, he thinks he looks golden. All of what was stated above is very true. The dig about romance is totally off. You can be anywhere and it be plently romantic. Link to post Share on other sites
beenburned Posted February 15, 2013 Share Posted February 15, 2013 JAP, You are exactly right!!:bunny: I've seen it over and over again in my personal life. All of my H's co-workers cheated like this! They were all just having fun being FBs. They all got caught and all their wives divorced them. What is so stupid about the whole thing is they loved their wives, marriage, and kids, but risked it all for some quick cheap sex on the side. Realist, The majority of cheating is not about romance, it is simply about sex with other people. I'm sure if you ever get caught by your wife, you might view everything differently when it is discussed in broad daylight. Are you the one that is in an open marriage? If so, then you are not cheating. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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